Why is it when you break away from someone you once cared for so deeply, you feel such anger for them after?
2007-04-26 15:50:41 · 13 answers · asked by MUA_besos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
most probably that person must have done something to hurt you and that you still havent let go of it...
honestly it is perfectly normal to feel as such, its nothing more then being human
when we care for someone soo much, that person so much so becomes apart of us...and when that person leaves due to whatever reason...we feel a part of us has left together...a song both of you used to listen to...a favourite place you used to visit...whenever that happens memories will start to replay and you will most probably hate that person for going away.
the anger that stems is most probably form deep inside us not understanding why that person would want to leave you...not understanding the reason will only lead to confusion and anger towards the other person...
i have also gone thru such a period...i still am at times angry at what happened and not understanding why it happened...especially more at the person...never understanding why they did it for...but honestly it doesnt matter...life will have to go on regardless...
it was later after that incident that i stumbled across a speech by someone saying just let go...forgive,,, forget...whats done is done...whats most important you were friends maybe more and that you are standing here today
2007-04-26 16:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Vincent K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've felt that anger before, but it wasn't really directed towards them. I was angry because things didn't work out the way I had planned. I've also used anger as a defense to keep from falling apart afterwards.
2007-04-26 23:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heart is a very strong fragil thing. When you care for someone for a long hard time you get attached. Then when your dissaponted you heart longs for all that love it once felt but when you know you cant have it you get upset and angry therefore your love turned into hate that you once had.
2007-04-26 22:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by R.C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from how they hurt you*.....? you ask yourself a hundred different questions "why would they do that to me? what did i do to deserve them treating me that way"? You came to a breaking point and broke away from them, but you still are carrying so many feelings for them you can't just 'shut it off' so it builds up into anger over a period of time.
2007-04-26 22:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becos sometimes when we care for that person we want them to care for us back, we always thought that caring is also part of give and take unfortunately relationship and ppl are the things which out of our control...
2007-04-26 22:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by Yuu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the line between love and hate is very fine take one step on the wrong side and it all goes down hill
2007-04-26 22:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by psycho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when we are hurt it turns to anger and anger turns to hate.
2007-04-26 22:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ga's Peach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of our imperfections we tend to hate people when they are not what we exspected
2007-04-26 22:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by Parachutes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It`s usually because they have hurt you or you hurt them and all that`s left is resentment.
2007-04-26 22:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by mythoughts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it didnt turn out the way you wanted it to
2007-04-26 22:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋