I know it is long but I kind of need someones help...please older people read.?

Question

I will tell you this story and you tell me if I am being stupid or what I might do. In the beginning of this year I started going to this youth group with my friends. During this time I met this guy named evan at church. I started going out with him behind my parents back(not allowed to date). I also started lying and hanging out with the bad crowd. my mom has really cracked down on me and I am a much better person. I broke up with this guy about thankgiving and haven't talked to him or seen him since. I feel so bad about what i have done, sometimes I get so upset i make myself sick and i have constant headaches. I have moved on from that phase I can tell that i am a new person i feel like I am better. anyways I started going to this new youth group and my mom totally attack me last night, and her just talking to me about what happened the last time made me bust out in tears. I felt like she just punched me. then she got mad at me for crying and yelled some more.

I kno it will take along time to redeem myself. but I am still sooo upset abou tit and it happened, how many months ago. all today I just didn't care and my head hurt because of the fight yesterday. I need someone on here to please just talk to me.

Answer 1

You should be proud of yourself for changing for the better, I'm proud of you. I am the mother of two teenage boys and as a parent it's scary. Your mom will see that you have changed in time and she will trust you again. The key is time and patience. I know it's hard for you I truly do but you have to put the past behind you and quit making yourself sick over it. There is nothing you can do to change what you have done so stop beating yourself up over it sweetie. We are all human therefore we are all going to make mistakes it's what we learn from those mistakes that matters. You hold your head up high and take pride in who you are. Love yourself and forgive yourself. I hope some or all of this helps you.

Answer 2

It must haven been hard to be feeling guilty about what you have done and wanted to make amends. The important thing to know is that everyone makes mistake, and you have recovered from that setback without much harm done.

The constant headache might be a result from all the stress you are giving yourself and you really need to calm down. If the headache goes on for a period, you really should see a doctor about it (it might be other issues which is causing the headache)

Perhaps your mum said all those hurtful things because she is scare of the same thing happening in the past, but if it makes you feel upset, you should find a place and time when she is not busy, and tell her how you feel. And tell her you appreciate her concern and is really sorry about the past, but just hoped that she does not bring it up again as it hurts you alot.

There is no way of going back to the past to undo anything, so just trend carefully from now on. Take care.

Answer 3

Oh hun, I know exactly what you are going through. When I was 16 I really "lost it" so to speak. Got a bad-a** for a boyfriend, started partying, doing drugs, having sex...running away. Long story short, my mom completely lost all trust in me. For years, the past continued to come up. Again and again we would fight about the same old stuff. Believe it or not, things do eventually get better. :) I am 24 now, and have a totally different life. My mom and I couldn't be closer, and I frequently express my sincere appologies for the hurt I put her through. Hang in there! Keep true to yourself and search within to find your purpose here. Connect with a higher power and learn something new about yourself everyday! Most importantly, please do not beat yourself up over bad decisions. The past is the past...life is a journey...just make sure to learn from your mistakes and all will be well! Be a shining light to everyone you touch, and your mom will come to see your sincerity in time.

Answer 4

I don't know how old you are ,but I would guess under15. You will have to regain your moms trust just talk to her let her know what is going on in your life .If you are going anywhere you need to ask her permission first and when you get home talk to her about what you did and who was there. We all make mistakes and sometimes they are hard to live down . Your mom just worries about you and wants you to grow up and be a responsible person. I don't know if any of this helps or not , but I hope it does good luck honey and be good!

Answer 5

your wrong about it taking a long time to redeem your self.... Yes you lied to mom yes you went behind her back. but you know it was wrong you did not continue doing what you knew was wrong... It sounds like your already on the right path
when mom says what happened TALK TO HER as an adult she will see this talking to her as a sign of your opening up its good for you both adn GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

Its always good to have someone to talked .I'll try to help you but the key to your answer is you trying to help yourslf. You need to let go the pass and move on. This will always affect you if you don't forgive yourself. Remember to love yourself first and don't give a damn about anything and anyone.

Answer 7

it is your fault that your mother doesn't trust you look at what you did
if you would like to continue the youth group then talk to her invite her to see what it's all about.
when you come home tell her everything that happened so she knows that you where there
and don't do the same thing again

Answer 8

just remember you mom is just trying to protect ya . relax and talk to her more later and tell her that you know you messed up and that you learned a valuable lesson . and that you wont hide any thing else from her . i hope things get better between you and ur mom. and i hope this helps.