Accidental Pregnancies?

Question

Okay so I had my baby when I was 18. yea I know its young but I chose to do what I did. Most other teenage mothers will tell you that "they ruined their life" or "I accidently got pregnant" or "i didnt mean to get pregnant". And some of these teens dont think it would happen to them. Now I am not perfect being a parent was way harder than I thought it would be. Now I do live with my parents, but other than living in their house, I do everything on my own, and thats the way I think it should be. So I guess my question is do you believe in accidental pregnancies. My personal opinion is that everyone knows having sex can lead to having a baby. It doesnt really matter what type of contraceptive you use, there is still that 1% chance that you can get pregnant. I think if u are not prepared to have a child you shouldnt hav sex in the first place. Does anyone else feel the same way??

Answer 1

absolutely. babies are never accidents, no matter the circumsatnces. they should instead be viewed as surprises.

it sounds like you have a goo head on your shoulders. just keep takin care of your child and don't worry what anybody else says thinks feels or does. the only one who needs to be impressed is your daughter/son. he/she is the only one who matters. and i am sure that your child was a welcomed surprise.

kudos for taking responsibility and giving your child life instead of aborting.

Answer 2

I am also 18 yrs old. I am pregnant for the second time now, but I had a miscarriage the first time, so I don't already have a baby. Anyway, yes if you have sex, then you should be ready to face the consequences that come with it if there are any. When I was pregnant the first time, it was not on purpose. Then I was really depressed when I lost it and decided to try again. I do believe that you can get pregnant on accident, because you weren't trying. But that doesn't mean that you are any less responsible for what happened.

Answer 3

My mom got her tubes tied, her husband had only one working testicle and a lot of scarring from an accident. She got pregnant.

There is such a thing as a true accident.

And then there is the fact that many people have completely wrong information. Most forms of birth control have a much higher failure rate than 1%. Even at 1% that is 1% per year. Meaning if 100 women use IUDs for a year 1 will get pregnant. Follow the same women for another 4 years and another 4 will get pregnant.

Start having sex at 14 and between 14-18 your chances of getting pregnant are between 4%(IUDS, certain other methods - 72% (condoms have a failure rate of 10-18% it is higher in teens who are less likely to buy the right size, store it properly, and use it properly).

Think about that for a minute.

Answer 4

I don't think that there is such thing as an accidental pregnancy, but most people just take the 97 or 99 percent risk anyway. And people who get pregnant "accidentally" just happen to not want the baby, but want to have sex. I don't think that it's a bad thing you had a baby at the age of 18, I really don't. We have enough judgement in the world. And I really think, that before teens and adults have sex, they should keep in mind that it is possible to get pregnant at all times.

Answer 5

There is no such things as accidental pregnancies in 2007. Having a baby is a choice. With birth control pills, condoms, Plan B, adoption and abortions, there is no excuse that a person could use to indicate an accidental pregnancy. One chooses not to use the pill, not to make her lover wear a condom, not to use plan B if in doubt. And ther is adoption and lastly abortion. We all have a life that is the result of the choices we make good and bad. I don't have sympathy or patience for whiners and those who have babies irresponsibly. I feel sorry for kids with incompetent parents and selfish mothers who have kids as a recreational sport. I am glad that you see things so clearly. Unfortunately there are many that keep having kids out of wedlock with different fathers. this is not good for kids and you can see the effects on the cities and schools where this is out of control. Why do so many people see no need for a stable father figure? It is so important. Well, I could go on but I have to stop my rant here. Goo luck to you thanks for taking responsibility. since you are living with your folks, do you child a favor and go to college and earn a degree while the are not in school. I think you parents will help you as much as possible if they see you are looking to secure you and your child's independence.

Answer 6

I feel the exact same way, which is why I waited until after high school to become active. Hopefully at age 18, you already had a diploma, so having a baby would not negatively affect you life as much as a 15 year old girl. Usually those quotes about teen mothers ruining their life are about girls who are still in high school. Any time after that is good timing for a baby.

Answer 7

i had my first when i was 19, second when i was 20..im 21 now

i do not believe in accidental pregnancies, the first time i got pregnet, we just quit using condoms....which happens to alot of people so there is no accident there...ya know whats gonna happen!

my second child, i was on the pill and taking antibotics at the same time...it says right on the pill packet...that some antibotics cancel out ur pill...
i believe that everytime u have sex theres a chance no matter what use....if u cant be mature enough to handle that risk then u shouldnt not have sex
i give u props for basically being on your own with your baby
its hard...i do it too

Answer 8

I had my first child right after my 18th b-day and I too lived with my mom for a little while I am now married and have 4 children, and to be completely honest none of my children were "planned" the only one my husband and I even discussed and "tried" for my our first son and unknown to us I was already pregnant when we started to "try"... I agree with you I think that no baby is "accidental" if you are HAVING SEX then you should know that their is a possibility of pregnancy... With my last child my husband and I used 3 forms of birth control and here I sit 3 years later with my 4th child Christopher, We weren't disappointed at all because we knew that because we were having sex there was a chance of pregnancy... IF you complain that a child ruined your life then you are ignorant because NO child asks to be brought into this world and only you are responsible for this action...

Answer 9

Are you carried out along with your rant? unintentional being pregnant isn't "accidently" having intercourse, it purely potential an unplanned being pregnant and there is rather no reason to over study it like this. And your burning analogy isn't sensible, that's precisely an accident. i do no longer see how this concerns every physique. If this is rather bothering you than be chuffed to ultimate suited human beings. this is not any longer a question, this is a rant. the sole question in right this is the final sentence, the place you're purely searching for human beings to consider you simply by fact of your puppy peeve suitable to the variety you do no longer think of this expression is grammatically ultimate suited. If I holiday over a rock, I accidently fall. I purposefully took the step, yet i did no longer plan on falling down. One useful action can bring about an unintentional one. jointly because it won't be precisely the comparable as having intercourse and "accidently" getting pregnant, this is totally close and gets the factor throughout the time of, an oxymoron would advise that this is an entire opposite.

Answer 10

Abstinence is the only truly effective form of birth control. And yet, I've even known people who got pregnant... believe it or not.... without having sex. There was contact, yes, but no penetration. It is unlikely, but it has happened. I think perhaps pregnancy without penetration may be the only true "accidental pregnancy" out there. Even vasectomies are not 100% effective, and lots of women have gotten pregnant with their tubes tied as well. The bottom line is that God made sex enjoyable so that we would do it -- so that we would procreate and populate the Earth. We of course engage in it recreationally, and I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with having sex for the purpose of giving and receiving pleasure with your spouse, but it was created so that we could make babies. So therefore, if you engage in it, you better be ready for having babies. That's why I do not believe in killing unborn children, and yet I call myself pro-choice. The choice is made before you take your pants off!!!!!

Answer 11

I got pregnant when i was 17 and had my son when i was 18. I was on the pill and i NEVER missed a pill in the 3 years i was on it and i got pregnant. The only way to not get pregnant is abstinence. I am married now (not to my son's biological father) and i haven't been on birth control and we haven't been using protection because we believe that if we are meant to have a child the Lord will allow us to get pregnant but we are not meant to have a child right now we won't get pregnant. Its a lot healthier for you than having all those extra hormones going through your body that birth control has in it.

In short, I agree with you 200%!