HE IS 49 YRS OLD WITH 2 SONS AGES 13&12 W/ A 20 YR OLD LIVING IN HIS HOUSE. HIS WIFE AND CHILDREN'S MOTHER DIED 2YRS AGO FROM CANCER. I'M A 25 YR OLD WOMAN W/ A 9 YR OLD SON AND WE ARE EXPECTING A BABY IN 4 MONTHS. I'M HAPPY W/ HIM I'M JUST NOT HAPPY W/ HIS KIDS. WHICH ARE NASTY AND BAD AS HELL. UNLIKE MY MY SON WHO IS VERY RESPECTFUL AND LOVING. HIS KIDS ARE DISREPECTFUL TO NOT ONLY ME BUT TO THEIR FATHER AND EACH OTHER. HIS DAUGHTER I FEEL SHOULD HAVE HER OWN HOUSE, PAY HER OWN WAY, AND BE GROWN ON HER OWN NOT LIVING ON HER FATHER.
2007-04-26 13:53:16 · 5 answers · asked by wednesday 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
along w/ that yes i have asked him about my son and he really like him. EXAMPLE: FOR MY SON'S BIRTHDAY HE TOOK HIM TO SIX FLAGS FOR HIS OWN SONS HE DID NOTHING. when i say nasty i mean my son cleans up behind himself and they don't we are on the verge of have roaches because they don't care. they compare their home to other people expressing they want to live in a larger and nicer house but their home they dont care about trying to keep it clean. they didn't even respect their mother when she was alive.( THAT CAME FROM THEIR ANUT ON THE MOTHER'S SIDE)
2007-04-26 14:16:38 · update #1
THE KIDS WANT TO LIVE LIKE THE JEFFERSON'S BUT THEY LIVE LIKE THE EVANS/ BEBE'S KIDS OFF GOOD TIMES. BUT I LOVE THIS MAN NO I'M IN LOVE WITH THIS MAN AND I WANT TO BE WITH HIM AND FOR HIM. AND THEN I HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED AND WANT TO BE BUT HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE MARRIED BUT HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO LEAVE. THE KIDS TREAT MY SON LIKE **** THEY CALL HIM UGLY AND BLACK AND TRY TO TOTALLY DEGRADE HIM ALONG W/ THE 20 YR OLD THAT REFUSES TO ACT HER AGE. EXAMPLE: SHE CALLED THE POLICE ON MY BLACK CHILD CLAIMING HE CAME AFTER HER W/ A KNIFE AND HE DIDN'T. THEN THREW HIMOUT THE HOUSE ONE DAY BECAUSE HE OPENED UP A PAPER WITH HIS NAME ON IT AFTER SHE STACHED IT FROM HIM. THE 2 YOUNGER BOYS ACT LIKE THEY ARE JEALOUS OF HIM THEY GET MAD CAUSE MY PARENTS SEND THINGS TO MY SON, COME TO SEE HIM, SEND FOR HIM, OR CAUSE HE WEARS NAME BRAND CLOTHES. THE REASON FOR ALL THIS IS CAUSE MY SON IS A STRAIGHT A STUDENT IN THE 3RD GRADE AND ON A 6TH GRADE READING LEVEL. IT'S TOTALLY UNFAIR TO HIM
2007-04-26 14:28:22 · update #2
BUT THEN THEIR FATHER SAYS THEY RESPECT ME BUT THEY WILL CALL ME OUT OF MY NAME IN SPANISH, I TELL THEM TO DO SOMETHING THEY ASK ME WHY, THEY TELL ME ON A REGULAR I'M NOT THEIR MOTHER BUT WENT THEY WANT NAME BRAND SHOES AND CLOTHES THEY COME TO ME LIKE I'M THEIR MOTHER. MY SON WORK FOR EVERYTHING HE RECEIVES THEY FELL LIKE **** IS OWED TO THEM. PEOPLE KEEP GIVING THEM REASONS TO DO STUPID **** AND THAT REASON IS THEIR MOTHER JUST DIED.
2007-04-26 14:32:09 · update #3
your son may pick up those bad habits... think of him.
2007-04-26 14:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by sopranob 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to take a stab at this one, because this is potentially a "red flag" situation. I'm sure you are aware of the many many problems that can arise in relationships where the two parents have vastly different views on raising children. Quite frankly, this is one of those issues that is best discussed BEFORE becoming serious in a relationship, especially if having children together is a possibility.
I hate to say it, but if you are having such feelings, couples therapy and parenting classes might be a good idea. If he is not willing to openly discuss the issues that you feel are important, then it might not be such a good idea to continue your relationship in the way that you would hope. Children are very perceptive to these things, and will see right through your differing methods...
This is a tricky one, but can definitely be resolved with the proper attention and work. Best of luck to you! :)
2007-04-26 14:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u are closer in age 2 his kids than him, they resent u obviously, when u say the daughter, i assume the 20 yr old, should move out and stop livin of her father is that so that u can take her place?/?????
2007-04-26 14:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by alroka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does he fell about his daughter moving out which sounds like a plan,as for the younger 2 give them a break their mother died, they miss her your there and have you ask him how your son acts?I'm sure he'll have a different opinion
2007-04-26 14:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to respect that they are HIS kids... they dont move because You dont like them
2007-04-26 14:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋