Well for starters. I usually act straight, don't like when guys try to hit on me...i guess its cause i have lots of respect for myself. Im in high school and dont really have a relationship with my dad...i find whenever we fight/bicker, i tend to find guys more attractive than ever, while i hate my father even more. I think i'm looking for a dude to replace that kinda of relationship...i am seriously losing my "grip" (listening to a song with that lyrics lol) But i feel, i don't know which way to go, every time i convince myself of something, it becomes realer than real. So i try not to convince myself i am gay, or straight or bi. But because i do that, i battle my conscience and i sometimes become sooo lonely. I push people away cause i dont want them to know anything about me...i'm not so weird, i just think im different...and not different as "retarded" just not sure who the hell i am. But i just need to share this with someone, anyone ever felt this way? its not a good feeling...
2007-04-26 13:04:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anthony L 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
man i could tell you stories dude, my parents kicked me out when i was 14 and my grandmother raised me, if anyone is in heaven she is......i'm soon to be 21 years old, glad we could be your vent, take care of yourself, if your gay straight or bi only you know dude, it's how you feel inside, you know yourself best..... man take care of yourself.......i think if you will check back i've already answered you once dude..............
2007-04-26 13:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about the wise a*s*s answer to your other question but I just couldn't help myself.
To answer this question, Welcome to "male hormones 101" with touch of wiring added to the mix.
During the years from about 11/12 to about 15/16 the body goes through some really massive changes. I am sure you are aware of those. But what most young people don't understand is that the brain is greatly affected by these hormonal and physiological changes as well. The best thing to do during this time is "hold on tight you're in for a hell of a ride" One day you will be just calm as can be, and in an instant you will be bouncing off the walls at the least little thing. My father and I didn't get along when I was a kid and we still don't to this day. Did this make me Gay? Nope. I knew I like other boys when I was 7/8 How? Haven't a clue.
Best of luck
2007-04-26 19:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by .*. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is where the nature vs nurture comes in. humans seem to have many factors contributing to which team you want to play with but there are also psychological triggers.
is your dad really racist / bigot? the thoughts could be a way of acting out against him true but i don't think it is that simple. our culture really screws with your head on this issue so you might not even realize consciously that you like guys.
what do you mean by "usually act straight"? does that mean you act gay sometimes? :P or is it all just an act?
with your father i recommend just being the bigger person and just doing whatever you can to assuage the situation. wait till you graduate high school and hopefully you can move to a dorm or something... or get your job... but if you argue back now it will make it worse because you probably need to live there for now.
about the gay/straight thing don't worry about it. once you are away from your parents it will be so much easier to be yourself even if you don't know what that is right now. maby you wont figure it out till then. if you want to experiment either way, it might help if you really find it necessary.
2007-04-26 13:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by ambientdiscord 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one expects you to have all the answers at this time. You're still coming in to your own, life is not so simple and it doesn't come with a handbook, so don't be so down on yourself. I am sorry that you do not have a good relationship with your father. It seems as if you would like to at least have a male role model or a male father figure of sorts. That is completely normal. No one expects you to know who you are yet. Do you know people die not knowing who they really are? There's nothing wrong with you. Pushing people away is not going to help you to feel complete inside. People need people, there's no getting around it. I hope that you are able to find someone to love you unconditionally, and that you realize that there is a difference between love and sex. Please don't let people take advantage of you just so that you can dull the loneliness for a while. It is a bad cycle to get into. I hope that this advice helps you. If there are people reaching out to you, please let them. You will see that their support will mean more than anything to you as you go through trying times. Good luck to you.
2007-04-26 13:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try settling down, taking it easy, and forget about all this..let time work it out. Time has a way of telling us a lot about ourselves, and you are not in a place where any decisions can be made....and, if you are gay, it isn't a decision you can make, it is or it isn't . You can live in denial as much as you want, but it will not help one iota. If you are straight, there is no way you are going to be happy with a man...so let it go and let time take its course. All this bull about your father is just that ...so much bull. You can place "blame" where you want about your station in life, but in the end, we are who we are, and there is no one to blame for our doing what we do but ourselves. In this case, it isn't a case of "blame." It is just a matter of how it is. Whatever it is. I suggest that you come off the dislike of anything gay, for that serves no purpose what so ever .... it may turn out that you are gay, and all this posturing will not have served you well. Good luck
2007-04-26 13:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, be true to yourself, that's all that matters in the end.
Mind you, don't go for a relationship full of fighting/bickering because you wanna replace your dad, that's just weird. Try a nice wholesome relationship.
2007-04-27 05:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, You are at the stage where you are going to change a lot. Follow your instincs and be yourself. If you like men then try to explore that option by joining a group or something of that nature. Experiment and find out if that is really what you want. Dont worry what others think about you. Its Society today...everyone loves to gossip no matter what sexuality. If they arent talking about you they are talking about what jenny wore that day...so you just follow what you want and stop worrying about others. Have confidence in your self and others will see that. Be happy with who you are and show it. I have a gay brother in law and hes wonderful ..i love him to death ...he is gay and proud of it...and if anyone questions it he tells them to F off and thats it. so as i said before ...follow what you want...not what you think others accept.
2007-04-26 13:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by ciyml 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most gay people go through this in high school. You might say yeah right, but it is true. Things do get better.
2007-04-26 15:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by Reece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good, I support you.....you won't believe but I have gone through the same condition, and I stopped thinking about my sexuality, because this was the only way I found. and I am happy.
2007-04-26 13:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by MoonShine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋