im condidering taking it but i think i want the baby im not 100% sure that i am yet but mi boyfriend does not want it and he already said that if i have it he will not be part of our babies life and he would deny it. So do i take the pill or tell mi boyfriend to shove it and have the baby?
2007-04-26 12:43:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think if you already know you are pregnant, it is too late to take the pill. It stops implantation and if you have a positive pregnancy test, implantation has already occurred.
News flash for him - you have the right to keep the baby if you want it. He may decide he doesn't want to have a part in it, but the you state will have something else to say about that. He showed up for the sex and made the baby, he gets to take responsibility too. He can deny it all he wants, but a paternity test will prove he is the father and the state will make him pay child support.
2007-04-26 12:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Morning After Pill is type of abortion. It's not the baby's fault that the father doesn't want to be part of his/her life.
I'd say don't take the pill and have the baby. There is always adoption, or, if you want to keep the baby, there is nothing wrong with being a single Mom. A great man will come into your life who is mature enough to handle the responsibilities. A baby is a joy and a great gift.
I recently found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend was excited, even though previously he said he didn't want kids for a long time. I've gotten alot of flack from people about it, but in the end, I have responsibilities now. If your boyfriend won't stick around, he wouldn't be there for you in other tough situations. Have the baby, and consider your options from there. Good luck!
2007-04-27 00:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by Emerilla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I understand it, the morning after pill prevents a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterus. So, in my opinion, the baby is already made, s/he's just not found his/her home for the next nine months. If your boyfriend is not interested in being a part of his child's life, that's his problem. However, if you're not sure if you want to raise the baby alone, then carry him/her to term and look for an adoptive couple. There are many couples who are unable to have children or who have some biological children and want to give another a home.
I feel as though if I'm blessed with something I have excess of, or something that I don't "need", but somebody else could use, then I should share. While I'm pregnant with my husband's and my first child, I do feel as though we are called to adopt someday. We have the love and hopefully the home and the other material resources to provide a child who would have otherwise been without.
These are my views, per your request.
2007-04-26 19:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Vegan_Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The morning after pill really only works up to five days after unprotected sex, and from the way you wrote the question, it sounds to me like it's already outside that window of time.
If you still are in that time period, I would definitely go for it. I had to take it once and the only two things I didn't like were that it make me feel like I was going to throw up and it made my period about a week late, which when you don't know if you're pregnant or not obviously makes you nervous. But the way the pill works is that it prevents implantation so it's not like having an abortion at all. That in itself will save you a lot of regrets later on because people who have abortions generally have thoughts like "If I didn't have the abortion then my life would have been like this with my baby..." Plus, the other thing is that I got it for $25 over the counter without showing any kind of insurance stuff, just my driver's license to show my date of birth (it's only OTC for 18+).
If you are out of this time window, there are some things you should consider... is your finantial situation right for a baby? It sounds like if you are pregnant, your boyfriend isn't willing to help much so you'll be the finantial and care provider. You would have to work to support the baby... but that would also leave you in the situation of needing child care. Is there anyone you know that would help you with that? Do you feel ready to be responsible for another life? But on the other hand, if you (are out of the EC pill time window and) have an abortion, you could regret it literally for the rest of your life. Are you willing to put yourself through that emotional rollercoaster ride?
All of these things you have to ask yourself and weigh into your decision. Obviously I don't fully know your situation or your values so I can't really judge and give a definite answer; that is something you'll have to do for yourself. But if you are in that 5-day time period, I'd definitely say go for the pills.
2007-04-26 19:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by sjfivhm07 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let him tell you to do something that you're not too sure about so you can regret it later. I say, to hell with him and have your baby. He sounds selfish and after all, he did play a part in this. Perhaps he forgot that it takes two?
What ever you do honey, just make sure that it is the right decision for you and no one else.
Good-Luck babe. I hope everything works out. :)
2007-04-26 19:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Cricket 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The morning after pill ONLY WORKS FOR 72 HOURS AFTER YOU HAVE SEX. If you are already pregnant you can't take the morning after pill and you need a medical or surgical abortion.
I think you need to visit planned parenthood and discuss with someone what your options are because you are clearly confused.
2007-04-26 19:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think the morning after pill is just like abortion. We two people have sex there is always the risk that pregnancy could happen. So he needs to be a man. If he is not part of its life, it will still be a good one. You never know if you end up meeting a wonderful man who would take your kid in as his own. I've seen it happen a lot.
2007-04-26 19:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
lol well if u plan on taking the pill u only have 72 hours before its to late.. once u are actually pregnant it wont work :( sooooo it depends on how u feel.. do u REALLY want the baby??? then tell him to shove it!! i had to tell that to my BF i am now 17 weeks and he told me in the beginning he would leave me and now he is kissing my *** LMAO..
2007-04-26 22:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by jazzybaby020106 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your boyfriend to shove it and have the baby. he is a jerk and will not be around anyway, he is too selfish. You will have this baby to love forever
2007-04-26 19:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by Emily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the pill. You don't want to intentionally bring a baby up without a father.
2007-04-26 19:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋