Why is it almost 100% of the time I ask a question I get one or more people criticizing me for asking that question, or being in this situation, or criticizing my spelling, grammer, punctuation.. whatever.. I'M ASKING FOR ADVICE HERE NOT TO BE TREATED LIKE A CHILD OR AN IDIOT!! I'M NOT ASKING FOR PERSONAL BELITTLEMENT BY THE AVERAGE PERSON WHO IS MISRIBLE WITH HIS/HER LIFE AND THE ONLY WAY OF MAKING THEMSELF FEEL BETTER IS BY PLACING JUDEMENT ON ME... I am not asking for your judgement! I really dont care what you think of me!! Just for once I would like some advice instead of someone trying to put me down for living my life the way I live it.. If you dont know how to give advice..here's some advice.. Put your own opinions aside and put youself in that persons shoes think what it must be like to be them then think what would I do if I was them?..I also noticed when I do get advice its filled with so much negitivity! Are there no positive people on here who know know how to give advice?
2007-04-26 11:54:15 · 7 answers · asked by bails 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is - me! People judge not so much because they look down on you but because they are not happy with themselves. Easy to lash out at strangers, you know?
2007-04-26 11:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always answer only the questions I really have ( and know I'm right for sure) the answers too. I never criticize, OR correct spelling or gramme( I am a rotten speller ,....smile)I'm not here to judge anyone , in fact I pray for each person...before I answer there question...(including you ).....so what you need to do is NOT take the answers of those "miserable with their life people " so seriously...forget the bad answers and read the ones you know are good and truly are here to HELP YOU...
2007-04-26 19:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sure don't want to belittle anyone. Hope I haven't here. Have before out of my own pain, sorrow and hurt ego--we all respond that way SOMETIMES, when people hurt us. Otherwise, people belittle regularly out of their own sense of insecurity, and pain, to cover it up.
It is tricky to give advice sometimes. Judgement is tough for some of us, because we don't think it's our "job" or right to judge others, because, frankly, we CAN'T walk in someone else's shoes and feel their pain or experiences. . . Also, don't want to say the wrong thing, and cause someone pain or a "bad" outcome as a result.
2007-04-26 19:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by spirallight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listening is a great way to give advice. Let the person speak. While you listen to their story, find a question to ask them. Ask the question, and listen to what they say. Then ask a question related to this new question ... your goal is to not give the advice yourself, but rather lead the person seeking advice to answer their own question.
2007-04-26 18:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just like any community- some people are here for fun, some to learn, some to teach
Freedom of expression is what its all about
2007-04-26 19:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not one of those no-life idiots who just post immature, rude comments to get a rise out of strangers.
What is your question?
2007-04-26 18:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by (no subject) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Im listening
2007-04-26 18:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by sylvia a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋