I have been married 6 years. For the last 3, the wife will not have sex. I have been faithful to her the whole time. It is very frustrating and she doesnt care. I have the oppertunity to cheat with another woman. Its not what I want, but I have needs and she doesnt care about them. I am 35 yrs old and in my prime. I need something!! What should I do? Should I cheat or just keep living without?
2007-04-26 10:27:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a divorce, do not cheat.
2007-04-26 10:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
My greater question is why would you even want to continue a marriage with someone like that ? I think it would be better if you get a divorce, and then you can find a woman who will care about you, and give you the kind of loving that you need and want.
It would be wrong to cheat, not only because it's wrong to cheat, but also because in order to cheat, you'd be using another person. And the idea of living without it for the rest of your life is totally insane.
2007-04-30 02:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems like you should just let her answer this question. You are willing to stick it out even though you think she doesn't care about your feelings?
Not for nothing, but it seems like your wife had something really bad happen to her about 3 years ago wich needs to be addressed before she can have sex again???
Did someone close to her die 3 years ago?
Did she start cheating on you 3 years ago?
Someone needs to find out what happened. Do not abandon her if you love her and you want to be a good man to her.
But if she is a cheater, get a legal seperation and kick her @ss out pronto! Good luck, I hope you end up with both love and passion in the end.
2007-04-26 17:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by momfirst101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't cheat - at least while you are married. Once you do - you can not undo it no matter what. If there is a problem with your wife you need to talk to her - tell her all of it, let her know that you are at the point of cheating b/c you need a physical relationship too. If she wont listen seek help with a professional.
I don't know if you are a christian or not, but if you are - cheating is stealing. Your body belongs to her and her body belongs to you, so if you cheat it is like stealing something that belongs to her and giving it to someone else - something that can't be gotten back - EVER.
Communication is better, even if you have to get help.
2007-04-26 17:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by Morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my wife(now EX-WIFE) I did the wrong thing and I cheated. I Had a long term affair with a woman that I ended up falling in love with. Nothing worked out well. I ended up without my wife(thank god) and with out the other woman who I ended up hurting even though I did not want to, But most importantly I ended up with out self respect. Get a divorce then get laid!
2007-04-26 17:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't cheat for that will give her something to throw in your face in the future. You really need to get through to her on how you feel. Ask her if you are the problem. Make her talk. Make her open up. Maybe ya'll need to get some marriage counseling. Maybe there are reasons for her not wanting to be sexual, maybe right now she is in a conflict with herself and she needs comfort. But the important thing is to keep being true to her. If she is in a conflict with herself, it will make things harder on her. If she does come out of her problems and she does want to be sexual again, and she finds that you haven't been true to her, the marriage will never be the same.
2007-04-26 17:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kristina U 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like u love her still so the marriage isnt over just yet talk to her tell her ur pain and that u want to share that part ur life with her as well. May be a problem on her end health wise doesnt hurt to talk to her. At any costs dont cheat it will just make things worse for the whole family.
2007-04-26 17:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Neither you need to get a divorce. Just because she doesn't want to have sex doesn't mean you should cheat. Two wrongs don't make it right. Three years oh my God how are you surviving. I'm a women and I couldn't last 3 damn years. I think you should reevaluate your life and if your wife doesn't care about how you are feeling then it might be time to move on. Good Luck
2007-04-26 17:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by KH 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
one of my friends has the very same problem.
the thing is ...do u have children? some women think that they have become ugly after giving birth to children and find themselves unattractive and fat.
the first thing for u to do ...is to talk to her and tell her how u still find her attractive. and set up a romantic atmosphere. to help her get in the mood.
if she still doesnt respond ...either shez having an affair...or she may have become a lesbian. i dont mean to be rude ...but its a possibility. because women have needs as well ....and it doesnt make sense if she isnt having any sex for 3 years.
communicate with her. if not ...tell her before u sleep with sumone else.
2007-04-26 17:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by zjk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your frustration, going through kind of the same thing. If you want to e-mail me with more info, will be happy to share what I am going through. People who are not walking in these shoes, should not judge and don't understand. It is easy for them to say do or don't cheat, but in reality they are not the one living the day to day life. Would be happy to talk more if you would like. If not, good luck to you, you will discover the answer in time.
2007-04-26 17:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by oursnowbaby32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is not the answer. If you are that unhappy in your marriage and your wife will not work on this problem, than maybe you should divorce. That way you will be free to look elsewhere to fulfill your needs.
2007-04-26 17:33:16 · answer #11 · answered by Momma 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋