i had feelings for my bro in law. we both had a great chemistry feelings..bond etcetc. our relation was on a roller coaster . At times i felt i enjoy more with him than my spouse.
not proud of it ..but this has been on since 5years .he got married off late ,. today i dont feel that much for him.. but i have to stay around family also be aroundthe ultrasounds etc that my sis in law needs( she is preg)
bil& i fight..argue ..i dunno y .. but im tired .. really.
i haveto bearound all the time we live together..all of us..moving out is no -no till another fewyears(reasons)
now..i need help. tell me how to adopt an attitude of a nice person with a reserved unaanoying...for me?>
im very (was) v jouvial with the bil.. and im fun loving etc. but how to help myself?
ty to all of you who answered!
2007-04-26 10:26:38 · 4 answers · asked by barley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im not trying to move ahead with the bro. gosh he is way too nasty ..i WASwrong but cos we live in one house thereare some duties blah bnlah. hence i asked how to be safe!
2007-04-26 10:49:01 · update #1
What a mess! Just remember your wedding vows at all times...
2007-04-26 10:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make time to do things with just your husband. If you're all living in one big house you will need space from each other. Your husband and you need time as a couple. It doesn't have to be romantic meals out at fancy places, just a quiet walk in the park will do the trick. You also need to find a way to be more independent - find some hobbies that get you out the house and away from the family politics and help to keep that distance from the bro-in-law. The less time you spend together or in the same house the less time there is for temptations or misunderstandings.
Don't try to change your personality though, if you're a lively person stay that way. Living as someone you're not only works in the short term - believe me I've tried. So alter your behaviour by doing other things.
Good luck.
2007-04-26 11:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by zbak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to get your head out of your butt, and be a decent person, you should not even be THINKING about carrying on with your brother in law.
2007-04-26 10:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honor the decision you made to be with your husband, and start looking at your brother-in-law as JUST THAT...a brother-in-law.
2007-04-26 10:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋