my girl friend loves me we only been together for 2 months i feel it's to early and she dosnt relly know what love is so what should i do cause i dont feel the same way we were friends at first but we didnt know much about each other
2007-04-26 10:19:33 · 22 answers · asked by Lovely_lady74 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her how you feel and don't lead her on!
2007-04-26 10:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dirtbox 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy (done with empathy and tactfully). No one handles being less loved than what they wish, and she will be subjected to some pain, no matter how you try to compromise.
But as with any relationship, BOTH parties need to be on the same page at the same time, or the relationship is imbalanced. And if there is not balance, there will be conflict, pain, anger, mistrust, and anxiety.
You need to hear her out, tell her you understand, then submit your perspective and ask her to understand where you are coming from, too. There's no harm in going back to a strong friendship and rebuilding from there. But in the meantime, each person needs to fully understand the emotional stance at this point, and have some goals set down of how to resolve any issues that are creating problems between you two. Counseling may also be in order, but that may be later on and too early at this point.
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2007-04-26 10:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is nothing wrong with that her feelings do not have to be your just yet. Let the relationship progress and see where it leads you. I'm with you it is a little too early, and I commend you for being honest. Alot of people feel as though they have to say I love you to their partners but Love is very serious and at least you aren't leading the other person on.
2007-04-26 10:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by KH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you do care a lot for her but your not quite ready to love her. Because love is a strong feeling and most people need time to get there. like I've been going out w/ my boyfriend for a month and I've known him for over a year. So when he tells me he loves me i can believe him. So it just takes a little time to get there, Tell her that to don't just let her think that you feel the same for her as she does for you. so if u really don't know her tell her that, then you two need to sit down and talk just git to know her a little more and let her get to know you. Then give it awhile and maybe one day you will love her. But you may also find out that she's not the one for you. I know that a 15 year old love struck girl shouldn't be giving advice like this but i have gone through this same situation and i know that its not easy to tell her the truth but it's the best thing you can do for her and yourself.
2007-04-29 08:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey honesty is the best policy. She may love you however she in not in love with you and their is a big difference. It has been a short time for you two, this works to your advantage on not hurting her. Tell her how great she is, you obviously like her or you would have been mean and not asked this question. ;) let her know you are not ready and want to take it slow. If she gets mad or upset then she is not the one for you anyway. If a boy said those words to me, I would be great-full for the caution. This is why my children are not aloud to just date one person. Yes, I teach my boys that dating is OK but this just dating one girl is for the birds. One changes during life and you cannot just date one person responsibly. High School and College is no place to play marriage. I dated in high school and college. When I was ready I dated one person only. That one person I married and became intimate with.
2007-04-26 10:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by flateach33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this depends on if you want a relationship with her. If you dont, get out whilst its only early days. Sublty. No need to hurt her now is there. But if you think there could be something there, just go with the flow, and tell her what bugs you.
2007-04-26 10:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tom B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she tells you she loves you ask her what that word means to her and tell her how you feel about the word LOVE, this is a powerful word and people throw it around like HI. Tell her the relationship is going to fast for you and you want to slow down and get to know her better.
2007-04-26 10:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Virgo Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 23:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to her and ask her is she really sure cause love is a really big word to say to someone especially if u only been with that person for only two months. cause i learn that the hard way. if ur not sure that u love this person dont say it until u really mean it. so tell her to slow her role.
2007-04-26 12:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's not working out for you and you just want it to go back to the way things where before you started dating. She may get hurt and pissed off at you but that's where you need to figure out is it worth loosing your friendship over it cause she might get hurt enough to end the friendship with you as well.
2007-04-26 10:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you guys need to take it slow, that love is a big responsibility. If you think you might fall in love with her, you're okay. If you really know deep down you won't, time to let her down easy, and move on.
2007-04-26 10:26:28 · answer #11 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋