why would i be more insecure in a lesbian relationship than a hetero one?

Question

I am 40 years old and recently fell very much in love with my current girlfriend. We live together and are hardly apart. She is cuban and speaks spanish often to her exgirlfriends who she maintains friendships with. I do not understand the language very much. She says she has been lesbian since birth and does not prefer men in bed but loves to hang out with the guys. She is the dike of this relationship. Several people have told me she has had sex with men. They also say she has a secret life of prostitution for money and drugs. I am with her all the time and do not see it. Only that every man or woman that knows her or meets her wants to do her....HELP!!!!!!

Answer 1

You feel insecure because its not exactly a healthy relationship. You don't know much of her purpose with these other people in her life, nor do you speck of a purpose for the relationship outside I guess that you guys love each other? Understand that hetero relationships tend to work well together because they usually gain that purpose of family. With out that you have to sort of make your own family with the friends around your relationship, and it sounds like she doesn't have good family around for you guys to be talking care of, or at the very least she keeps you seperate from them. But without a purpose that the love can help allow to grow you guys well eventually stagnant allowing that mind of yours to run wild!