How often does the spouse leave for the person they are cheating with?

Question

if it's not just about sex but emotional closeness as well..........question is not about me.........

I asked this question earlier but no one was answering.too many details I guess...LOL

everyone keeps making this question about the guys but what if the cheater is a woman and it did start out non sexual for months.....other question has details ....

I agree with the last answer except not a horrible person he's just lonely and maybe naive....

IT IS NOT ME.....the guy is in England....me USA... I am a friend......when I felt like cheating I left my marriage so don't call me a whore..I am the furthest thing from one and think their realtionship is WRONG.......

Answer 1

I don't know if anyone really knows the truth about the question you asked. Some men or women, when they are cheating get so involved, that they are willing to give up everything in there marriage or relationship for the other person. They have a very deep emotional connection to that person. Some people cheat, but do not have that emotional connection that would cause them to leave their mates or spouses. They have the ability to detach the emotional aspect from the physical. Some people truly believe that they love their spouses, but yet they still commit the unthinkable by cheating. They excuse their action for the affair by saying that it is only physical. Other people get caught up so emotionally and physically that they feel that they just cannot live without the person they are having an affair with. Thus, willing to throw it all away, marriage, long term relationship, and even sacrifice separating from their children. I think personally the majority of people who cheat tend to have a fling think their indiscretions will never come to light. Deep down they don't intend to leave their significant other. But, in some instances, rarely there is someone who gets involved and decides to risk it all. The emotional ties out weighs a sense of responsibility to the spouse.

Answer 2

People have affairs for different reasons. Some people have affairs just to get out of there marriage. They are called exit affairs. They will leave, and not come back. If the person is having the affair for other reasons, the marraige may be fixable, but only after this other person is out of the picture.

Answer 3

What you should keep in mind is ... anyone that willingly and knowingly messes around with a married person is a horrible person and what goes around will come back around no matter what ! so if you are the cheater or the one being cheated on or your friend just recommend dropping everything because even if the spouse leaves the person they are cheating with ..... eventually they will go back or do it to that person.

Answer 4

That's a tough one.....I know of one guy who cheated on his wife because he was not getting the attention from the relationship...He loved his wife dearly but everyone has needs and they have to be met one way or the other. This behavior continued with various women (one at a time over the years) until he fell in love with the last woman he was with. He did divorce his wife who only now wanted to give him what he needed all along, but it was too late..his love was elsewhere.

Answer 5

The woman he is cheating with (you) man not want to believe this but its just a bootie call. The man may loose his way for a second but he comes back to his senses and gets back with the wife. You can't turn a Whore into a Housewife

Answer 6

People I know that had this happen, the husbands went back home. Most of my friends said that they where going through things and he decided to talk to the other woman about it which lead to her saying all the things she would not do.But in the end they all saw there ways and tried their best to work things out at home.We all reap what we sow they may not see it now,but it will come.

Answer 7

Interesting question..

I'd have to say it varies depending on relationship with the person they are married to and how close the guy or woman is to his/her children. Reconciliation may or may not happen..at times..it varies..

Sometimes the spouse thats cheating doesnt leave the person they are cheating with at all because he/she may have a new family with the person she/he's with now..rather than the ex wife or ex husband with whom he/she may not have any children with at all.

Answer 8

Maybe 2-3%...I have never seen a person that cheated leave for the other person...but that is just in my life experience.

Answer 9

not much because for most they just want a little mystery in their life.they can pretend all sorts of crap with their lovers but they cant pull it off on their husbands or wives because they know who you really are.its a cheap feel good game that usually means nothing but hurts a lot of people.and they cheat on their husband or wives with you they will cheat on you also.my ex sisterinlaw carried on an affair with a married man for many years .had kids with him he never left his wife and her family disowned her.at one point her lover moved her and the kids in with him, his wife and their kids too.on top of that he would bring other women home too.only when he became seriously ill did his wife throw him out and divorced him and took over 60% of everything he had.between the 2 women he has 10 children.so she did get him but she didnt get much believe me, dont you think what a waste! he never would have left his wife for his lover he just wanted them both on his terms.i think both women and the kids all have suffered for it.just my opinion.

Answer 10

Well I would say that it almost never happens unless that person is very stupid to give up something for nothing.
I think that you should still leave him though if he is playing you with another woman because it is not fair to you.