what is some good advice for my friend about how to handle her problem that i helped start?

Question

my good friend, nicole, really likes this guy and wanted to know if he liked her back. so, at the end of the day 2day wen my friend walked away, the guy she likes just happened to walk by me. he said something to me but i just said to him "hey, you like nicole doin't you?" i was hoping hed say yes so nicole would be extremely happy but instead he just said "no, i definitely don't." once he started walking away my friend came back and i told her i asked that guy if he liked her. im not so sure but i think shes mad at me. even tho this guy said no i think he might like her. i dont think ill say anything else to him but what do i say to nicole and what can i say to that guy to not make him think nicole likes him? please help. :)

Answer 1

i doubt he thinks that nicole likes him because all you said was hey you like nicole don't you. you didn't say she likes him. he probably thinks someone told you he likes her so i wouldn't worry about that! just let nicole get over it, it's way easier to be mad at the person who told you he doesn't like you then be mad at the person who actually doesn't like you (it's the typical shoot the messenger situation). i'm sure she'll get over it quickly!

Answer 2

1. Guys don't pick up on much, but that one is a huge red flag. If you are friends with Nicole and you ask some dude if he likes her, it is assumed that it came from her to ask him. This is especially the case as she came up to you right after you asked him.
2. His answer is meaningless. You put him on the spot in a wicked way; his only response was to be negative. If he said yes, then it would look like he had some secret crush on her (or something like that) - which would be very "NOT" cool.
3. You need to tell Nicole what you did. If you don't she could put herself in a much worse place by asking about him through somebody else. If "dude" gets asked a second time, he will run from her (and probably talk to his friends about her as well). Then you and Nicole are done with being friends.

The friend of a friend thing usually only mucks things up. If Nicole likes the dude, have her talk to him. Anything else is only a screen play for another bad sitcom.