My best friend cuts herself . .?

Question

I have known my best friend for ages . . . but recently shes been really strange and has started cutting herself, which is not like her at all ! I'm really worried about her, the cuts on her arm looks quite bad, I have tried to ask her what was wrong but she just replied with "I'm lonely" . . and I don't really no what do to to help her . . .
Please can someone help me
I'm really worried

Answer 1

help her. Invite her over, maybe go watch a movie or something. She's probably turned emo, which means emotionally challenged in case you don't know. Just let her watch happy movies and stuff but make sure it doesn't make her the opposite.

Answer 2

when ppl start harming themselves that means somethings bothering her,u better tell some 1 quick other wise she'll do serious damage and coz u knew all about it and kept it 2 ur self than ull get the worst out of this all.try tlkin 2 her but be careful coz she might think that ur being nosy and keep diggin at her.coz she's lonely tke her 2 the cinemas or shopping and show her that she'll never be lonely as long as ur around and show her that u really care 4 her and is afraid that something serious will happen 2 her-1 day the doctors wnt be able 2 save her and ull feel guilty coz u know that u could have dne something 2 save her.u beta be safe than sorry.ask a doctor at ur nearest surgery but watch it coz when ur ask a doctor u tend 2 say 'oh its not me its 4 a friend' then the doctor will automatically think ur the 1 harming urself,u friend really needs u so uve got 2 be there 4 her

soz if ive been 2 harsh but uve got 2 think whats right 4 ur friend
Good luck with it all x

Answer 3

explain to an adult you trust, who will be able to help such as a the doctor or a teacher(if you are in school) She might not appreciate it now but it will be better in the long run.

All you can do is try stick by her. show her she isn't alone. That you will always be there with her and remind her of funny stories of the past.

I used to be a self harmer myself so i know how your friend feels, trust me it isn't easy. Although i haven't self harmed in a number of months it is difficult to give it up once you have started and a lot of the time depending on how deep she is cutting, she will be left with scars which will be there for the rest of her life.

She might just want some attention or it could be serious. As long as you show her she isn't alone, that there are many people all around the world who are going through the same/ similar situations it may help.

i hope this is of some use and good luck to you both

Answer 4

People cut themselves because they feel in such emotional pain - they may be almost unaware of it at some level because they're blanking out - and cutting (or burning etc) feels like a real relief, strange though that may seem. As a good friend, it probably feels awful to see this and horrible to feel she's so far away. Try to encourage her to get help - by talking to her parents, her GP, a counsellor, whatever - and also just spend time with her doing whatever you usually do together. Have some fun so that your friendship continues - but if she doesn't do anything to get help, keep urging her now and then, but don't let it dominate your entire friendship. If the cutting isn't risking serious bleeding or damage, it isn't as worrying as something that causes real damage. If you become really concerned that she could do something serious, and she won't seek help, contact her GP yourself.

Answer 5

Just reacently, i knew a girl who i am very close freinds with has started to self-harm, this is very emotional for you and your best freind, so tread carefully. Firstly ask her how she is?? how she's feeling?? Get to know whats wrong and try to comfort her.
Keep checking on her, see if the cuts get deeper or she cuts her self more and more often. If you think the situation is getting worse and even if she starts to act more differntly than she already is, tell her mum/doctor/school teacher and dicuss the problem, you cannot go through this alone, you will need help and support not only for yourself but obvisly your friend.
Call her and talk to her, get her involved more with you, becasuse as you said she feels lonely, so try and get her active so that she doesn't have time to think about how lonely she may be.
Give her lots of support, help her through this!!
ANd dodn't forget don't go through this alone, you need to tell a trusted person, who you know can help her!!!

Answer 6

I do piercings to myself and cut myself, and still do, but i have not as often, but i haven't done any cutting in two months. What might have set her off was maybe you talked to a friend, and she got jealous or she feels like no one cares for her. Your friend just wanted to be cared for, she wants to know that you care for her, not asking her if she has cut herself recently. It could be a problem at school to any as like home, anything can make her sad. She probably thinks she doesn't belong, or she thinks she is too different. I met a friend, the nicest person i have ever met and she hugs me everyday and tells me she loves me. Though i show that i really don't care and i don't hug her back, or that i even don't say i love her back doesn't mean i don't care for her, and the girl that does this is not even my 'best friend'. Maybe your friend had enough of keeping her feelings inside and she thought it would be better do cut herself which is not true. Later on she will regret hurting her body and feel even more sad. All she needs is to her that you love her and hug her, i really helps even though it may not seem like it.

Answer 7

You just need to be there for her she will be doing it as a way to relieve some kind of pain maybe spend a bit more time with her and keep offering to be there when ever she needs you or when she feels ready for help, talk through going to the doctors and offer to go with her, but dont pressure her if she says no just tell the offer will always be there if she changes her mind. I t may be something she just stops doing one day, afew friends just stopped without help one other of my friends though had a lot of other mental health problems and needed councelling and had hypnotherapy. Hope this helps, you also need to talk to people other wise it will get you down, if your worried about people finding out when she doesnt want them to, talk to someone that doesnt no her.

Answer 8

I used to cut myself, in this strange way it seemed to help release the emotional pain I was feeling but I know it could be kind of scary for people round me. She sounds really lucky to have such a concerned friend. Everybody is different but when I've been like that its just nice to know that the friend cares about me and they say stuff like "if there is anything I can do then let me know", and encourage me to seek help gently. You could also get the number for a self-help group for self-injurers.As long as she knows that your not judging her and that you accept and care about her the rest will follow.

Answer 9

i deal with teens and a number of them have been cutters...

they usually do it out of frustration and it is a way to relieve some of that frustration and gain some control back over their life. She needs to talk about it. Something could be bothering her at home, or school, socially, etc...

sometimes this can get serious so its best to keep a close eye on her and see if it gets worse. talk to her about it regularly to see if its getting worse.

she needs to know that someone cares and she may eventually open up...its a little emabarrasing to them at first.

do some internet research and learn about it, it will help u to understand where shes coming from a little.

good luck

Answer 10

Don't tell her parents it could tip her over the edge. I used to cut myself as did a lot of people i know. It is something most grow out of, just keep an eye on it!

Answer 11

She's obviously very depressed. How is she like at school, or in public? Do you know if she has any problems at home? Try taking her out to fun places with a small group of friends (5 maximum) to cheer her up, and make sure you pay plenty of attention to her.