Friendship help?

Question

Well, this is a really long story. I'm 14 and in high school.
Okay. So my class had to take this interim assessment test today and I'm in one of the normal classes that don't get an extension, so everyone finished pretty darn quick. We were not allowed to switch or to move to our next class, which was MATH, so the teacher came into our homeroom. This is when the story begins. When we were taking the test the period before, I didn't sit near any of my best friends, so when the math teacher came in, everyone rushed into different seats to sit near their not-so-close-friends. I was about to move until this bltch ran into the seat next to my bff. there were no seats left near the table to sit in, so I was forced to sit with the annoying, smelly geek who has no friends. My friends didn't even care! Next period came, which was ART, so everyone sat in their normal seats until the teacher said she wanted to fix the tables, so she made everyone move. My normal seat was across

from my bff, so I was happy until she told us to move. I got up to use the bathroom, taking all my stuff with me. When I came back, the same bltch from before took my seat. I was FUMING!!! always try to look at the positive side of things, so I tried to shrug it off. The sad part is, they STILL DIDNT CARE. Last period came later, which was Spanish, and our teacher let us chill for more than half the period. I got started on my math homework, and my table was completely empty. COMPLETELY. I WAS THE ONLY ONE THERE. The homework was based on some hard algebra stuff that I didnt understand too much; I was lost. I leaned over my seat and saw my bff with another of my close friends huddled over their math homework, trying to figure it out together. I sighed. I felt so neglegated. Lunch came and we had Pizza Day, which is basically a day where you order pizza and eat it in the lunchroom. Me and my bff were planning to help give out the pizza to the rest of the people and then eat our share.

I didnt see her at all. I asked other people in my class if they knew where she was, and they all didn't know. Some people thought that she went to the school library, but I knew she didnt beacuse the library was closed today. I also know that she went with another close friend of mine, because she wasn't anywhere. After I got out of school, I walked to the store to buy some chips and then to go home when I see MY BFF WITH MY OTHER CLOSE FRIEND COME OUT OF THE SIDE DOOR OF THE SCHOOL. I seriously did NOT want to see them. I just went home, and confused. What should I do? This has happened before, but it wasnt this bad. My bff I have been with for since 1st grade, and my other close friend since 6th grade. Ahhh please help;I'm about to have a nervous breakdown!!

Bff is best friend forever

Answer 1

what the hell is BFF? Is that like a new doll?

Answer 2

For one thing, what's so bad about sitting with the smelly geek who nobody wants to sit with. You know, you probably made his day and you didn't even give it a second thought except to say how you couldn't stand sitting with him. Maybe you need your BFF to treat you this way so you realize how you are. Have you ever thought that maybe you are shallow and only care about what makes you happy never thinking about the people around you. You have to realize that friends will come and go, but how you treat people throughout your life will stay with you until you die. Stop worrying about whether your BFF is hanging out with another friend and worry about you. Concentrate on treating everyone in your life better and finding who you are and the rest will fall into place. Besides, if she is your true friend, she'll come aorund. Tell her how you feel and let her know that you felt left out. If she is really your BFF then she will understand and make an effort next time to pay more attention to you. But if you continue to be selfish in the way you deal with everyday life you are are going to find out that this will keep happening no matter how many friends you have.

Answer 3

Well, what happened the last time when your friend "neglected" you? Think about that and see if there is any pattern. If not, then I'm going to tell you something you're not going to like. Girls are mean! Especially little high school girls. My friends would occassionally treat me awful, but I would do the same thing! Girls are catty and evil, life is NOTHING like the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. Sorry. This whole situation is probably all in your head. BUT if something really is wrong, then it will probably blow over and you two will be BFF again. High school girls are fickle!@

Answer 4

First of all, Calm Down! This happened to me in middle school. I had been best friends with a girl since first grade as well, and she started hanging out with some other people and began ignoring me at one point. It hurt a lot! It went on for a few months. We had little contact. But we eventually got to be great friends again and she was in my wedding recently:) We are 21 now and still best friends.

Not all stories turn out like this, but worrying and freaking out is not the best way to handle it. I know you can't help it, and I know it's a big deal for you, but try to relax. Wait things out; give it some time. Maybe try talking to her.

Friendships change, people change, and things won't always be the same.
Good luck, you'll be ok!

Answer 5

I think you are making a big drama over something small. I know it hurts sometimes when you see your best friend hanging around with other people and it feels like you are losing them but your friend has a right to other friends too. When you get older, and start working, you don't get to refer to your workmates as the smelly one and simply ignore them; you have to talk with everyone, work well with everyone and get on regardless of your opinion of them so you might as well get used to it now. Chances are that you have more in common with the kid than you think. Call your bff and you don't need to mention what happened, just get back on track. You can bring up the incident and let her know it hurt your feelings later on. If you bring it up straight away she will probably get defensive and it will make the situation worse. Good Luck.

Answer 6

ok, first off, it sounds like your friend does not care for you that much anymore. i could be wrong, but i do have experience in the matter. what you should do is try to get your friend alone so you can talk the her and tell her how you feel. secondly, don't sweat it. times change and people change. that is just the way life is. i guarantee that you will make more friends before you leave high school

Answer 7

I would see if you can talk to them on IM or e-mail to see why they are avoiding you. Asking them would probably be the best way to go. I hope this works out for you!

Answer 8

Your friend doesn't sound like much of a friend.You should try talking to her to see what's going on.