my daughter lives with a muslim who is twice her age they have 2children +1 on the way he treats her like an animal. is very abusive calls her names like whore, prostitute and sell out he is an absolute disgrace to any decent muslim he is a smack head a womaniser.but most of all he is a parasite a disease to normal human beings he knows who he is and now so do many others.
2007-04-26 09:08:34 · 20 answers · asked by callan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I presume she's western ... and, that's the crux of it. Whatever you say about Muslims, I could say the same of Christians, Jews or Hindus. This isn't so much a Muslim issue as it is a human problem. Without commonality (which is usually an important part of attraction) there are always going to be issues.
I've spent a good part of my life in the Muslim world. This isn't the way they treat their Muslim women. But it is characteristic of the way they've been taught to view western women. Muslims are taught a very judgmental attitude toward non-Muslim women. The insults he's using are not an uncommon way for Muslims to refer to western women.
However, in the area of the world where I live, it would be incumbant upon the father of a good family to take his daughter out of such a situation. I don't understand why western women marry Muslims. But if they do, I find it equally difficult to understand why their fathers tolerate the abuse of their daughters. This husband would probably be killed by her brothers in my world.
If she's in your country, get her and the kids out of that house. If she's in the Muslim world, your options are limited to tribal rule. To get them out you may need to pay money or deal with it the 'traditional' way. I know that doesn't sound very civilized, but your options are very limited when she's in a Muslim country and there are children involved.
2007-04-26 09:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sultan 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter is in a real bad abusive situation & these only get worse, (personal experience). His religion is not his problem, he is an ar**hole. she needs to realise staying with him will teach the children that it is normal for men to abuse women & i'm sure your daughter would want this to be the last thing to happen. Phone the national domestic violence helpline for advice. Your daughter could be moved out & be in a safe house tonight if she needs it. Ba**ards like this are extremely dangerous & it does escalate to the point your life is in serious danger. Her self esteem will be absolutely shattered & she will have been conditioned to the point that she believes this is all she is worth. Please do not give up on her deciding to go. It can happen if she accepts the help out there. The people who work in this profession are fantastic, non judgemental & understanding. There is a life after escaping these pr*cks, i hope she sees it for herself one day. My heart goes out to you it must be real a difficult situation for you too. Good luck. Let us know how things go. X
2007-04-26 09:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by Supergirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this is causing you pain. Being a mother myself I do not know what I would do. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do until your daughter wants to get out of this situation. Maybe your could take her to an counsellor who specialises in abuse cases. She needs to realise for herself that she is indeed abused. Abuse is not always physical, sometimes it can be emotional and verbal. I'll keep a good thought for you. Good Luck.
2007-04-26 09:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by Bookworm4124 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's sad that your daughter got involve with someone like this let alone had children with him.....
I'm sorry that a person like this is even apart of your family....
2007-04-26 09:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As usual, "Sultan" here is a voice of reason.
As terrible as this is going to sound, a back alley beating may be all it will take to take care of this savage.
I will pray for your daughter and her children......
2007-04-26 09:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
HAVE YOU TRIED TO TALK TO HIMM OR EVEN HER MAYBE IF U OFFERED FOR HER TO COME HOME AND HELP PPUT SHE WOULD GET OUT OF THIS HORRIBLE TRAP IF SHE WERE MY DAUGHTER I WOULD TRY TO GET HER OUT IF SHE WOULD GO DUE TO FEAR I WOULD BE THER A LOT SO HE COULD SEE I WASNT HIDING MY HEAD IN THE SAND IF HE DOES THIS TO HIS WIFE DO U THINK HE DOES THIS TO HIS KIDSCALL THE LAW WHAT EVER IT TAKES SAVE YOUR CHILD AND HERS
2007-04-26 09:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Iits not his faith its his attitude that stinks... he needs a serious slap!
get your daughter and grandchildren out and as far away from this guy as possible
good luck
2007-04-26 10:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The problem is we all make mistakes and learn from them, Maybe you need to let your daughter discover them for herself. Advise her but thats as much as you can do
2007-04-26 09:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well your daughter sounds a bit silly for still being with a man who treats her like that !
2007-04-26 09:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
And ur still allowing this to happen to ur daughter. Sure --- great broadcast it to all on yahoo but shouldnt u be stepping up and kicking his butt.
2007-04-26 09:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋