When I was about 18 i pretty much dropped out of life. I stopped hanging out with people and I kept to myself. I didnt socialise really. I went to college(studying a subject I hated)I did some exercise, I went to bed. that was it. Id just stay in watching tv at wkends, so my life was a lonely one. Im only now starting to understand why I retreated from the world(im seeing a therapist)and ive been trying to get back into life. I went back to college to study a subject I like, ive taken up playing team sports again, I hang out with some people in college(instead of going off by myself). So im proud of the way ive turned things around. My only problem is dealing with people. Im having a hard time getting along with some folks. Group projects have been difficult. I seem to rub people up the wrong way and im just getting tired of feeling bad about myself for it. Im at the stage were i just wanna avoid people again to save myself the hassle. What do you guys think????
2007-04-26 08:40:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
oh Im 31yrs old now
2007-04-26 08:40:54 · update #1
because you have had yourself out of the loop for so long, it's going to take some time for you to re-acclimate yourself to society. fortunately, MOST people are easy to get along with on a daily basis, but you will still run into the occasional asshole. take it all with a grain f salt. remember that we are all just human and noone is perfect. some people just don't click. it will take time, but through exposure to these kinds of people you will learn how to interact with them civily.
2007-04-26 08:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by iittghy? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. I think you should do and be whatever makes you feel comfortable and relaxed. Of course dealing with people is a fact of life. It really can't be avoided altogether. Don't go back to being a total loner, why not try to figure out other people and see if you can make a connection with them. Somewhere in the middle of where you were then and now would be a good start for you. Hang in there. People are tough to handle sometimes but we are all human and individuals which is what makes life interesting.
2007-04-26 09:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting out of your antisocial behaviour is difficult so it will take time (you didn't mention when you started your turn around).
I think that when you have issues with people you should ask yourself what the problems are. It could be that you are being overly harsh with them, or it may be something on their end. Discussing the problems with them is a good way to resolve any issues that arise.
Don't retreat into a shell again. Life is better when you live it.
2007-04-26 08:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by forestpirate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have so many questions for you. Do people tell you that you are bothering them, or do you just "feel" or "know" that you must be. If it is the latter, it may not be that you are bothering them as much as you are worried that you are. (Does that make sense?) Basically, you are giving menaings to what they do that will reinforce your ideas that they don't like you. If it is the former (they tell you that you bother them) then either try to get along better (ask them for advice) and if that doesn't work, then maybe it is that they are not trying to get along with you. You can't control them and be proud of the efforts you make. Some people will see your genuineness and appreciate it.
2007-04-26 08:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Bag-A-Donuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on taking control of your life and seeking help. 31 is not old you have time to do whatever you wish. We all have problem dealing with people from time to time. If you are comfortable with this suggest try it. Ask one of your friends or colleagues what you do to irritate people. Do not be offended by the answer accept the answer and apply what you have heard. And by all means don't feel bad about yourself, you have made such great strides. You just have a little more work to do.
2007-04-26 08:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had a full battery of tests done to see if you are a genius? Group projects are the worst!! You are allowed some negatives in life but just keep the balance. I don't care much for people either, but, the reason I am a recluse of sorts is because we moved away from family so my dad could work at GM and no one but us were there. MOM, DAD, two kids. That's it. So, I don't like a bunch of yahoo's in my house, but I am on meds so it helps. Sometimes you just gotta look at people and shake your head in your head. No need to insult them just man "I don't understand you at all".
2007-04-26 08:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
comparable right here!!! i'm never drained. I constantly stay wide awake late and not even experience somewhat drained. And every time I stay wide awake hecka late like 3 pm, I finally end up waking like at 7:30 to eight:00 am. I artwork out generally too, and that i'm not a hyper kind of person.
2016-10-30 09:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're on the right track and keep it up. You can't please everyone. You need to learn to stand up for yourself if you feel that you're right. Also learn to say "sorry" when you offend anyone unintentionally.
Be brave in facing challenges in life. Don't take the easy way out by retreating in your own world. Open up yourself to meet the challenges and be positive. take care and good luck!
2007-04-26 08:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont much like people either, i usually just talk to people i know and my gf and thats about it and im happy with how it is......but yea people are very annoying well people lol, most of them around my age are very immature and act stupid
2007-04-26 09:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by eclipse555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋