Repeating this because people did not respond to MY facts. My H left me for a neighborhood friend. ****He moved out four blocks away, She lives five blocks away in the other direction. She put her husband out who moved around the corner from me.**** I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP. The winch and her husband - 1 daughter. My husband and I - 2 kids. We take the same train to work ( NOTICE - I WORK) but sometimes he gets off the train at my stop when he is coming from her house in the morning or going there in the evening. All kids under 8.
He is paying the mortgage, day care, tution for our kids I can't afford. He threatens to seek full custody of the kids if I move out of town. I can't afford $20,000 in attorney fees.
He still gets invited to friends parties & he takes her. Sometimes I am invited and sometimes not. He won't divorce me & is fighting my divorce. What??? I need any advice that you can give. I am thinking of moving away giving them the kids. Better absent than nuts, right?
2007-04-26 08:38:29 · 8 answers · asked by jazz41 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're thinking about abandoning your kids? That would be nuts. I don't care how bad the situation is. Your kids come first. You should be sucking it up for those children. What are you thinking?
2007-04-26 08:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can't stop the divorce. Find a lawyer who will help you. Gosh, I can't understand why it would cost that much to get a divorce. Is someone telling you that or you know this to be a fact? Most lawyers will give the first visit free, making decisions when stressed as much as you will not be good. You need to relax and sit back and think about some of the things your saying. The children need you, so hang in there. It alway looks more bleaker than it is. I've been where I could not see daylight because of all the dark thoughts, when like this you will do foolish and rash things and regret it later. If you believe in prayer, that is what got me through.
2007-04-26 11:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a rough divorce and I have three children.
Girl, how in the f u c k could you even think about giving up your kids and not being a part of their life? What kind of mother would that make you in their eye??
Wouldn't you want your kids to see you make it instead of giving up?? That's a great thing for you to let you children see how easy their mommy gave up on them.
Girl, think about what you are saying!! Okay I understand how hard it must be that they live so close to you but suck it up and be a woman!! We are much stronger then most people think expecialy when it comes to our children. Fight for what you deserve and don't let some man weather it be your kids father or not don't let him get the best of you. Because if you let him have the kids then you are not even worth having the name "mom".
2007-04-26 09:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your attny has filed, and nothing is happening....you need another attny. I had 4 children, youngest was 2. He claimed I'd never get the children, blah, blah, blah.
When the day came, he never showed....divorce final. But it did take 18 mos! AND he lost e/thing, house, children, car.
(However the car was reposessed, AFTER I stripped it)
Your H is paying e/thing, but making you miserable. Make YOUR plan, and stick with it! Ensure he pays thru the nose! HIS kids need a roof over their head, and HIS financial support.
Then he wont be so happy to get off at your stop. When he sees what his fling is costing him, he'll probably wanna kill ya.
So PLEASE be careful!
2007-04-26 08:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no answer. You are f'd. And everyone wants you to smile and get over it, I bet? And no one is requiring anything from him, right? Visit some religious institution and pray. Even if you are an theist, it can help you to get used to this.
If your kids are young, she will not find them so interesting when they get older. They will come back to you. Join clubs and keep yourself busy in the meantime. This will pass.
missks89: WHY DID YOU AGREE TO MOVE THERE? Weird.
2007-04-26 08:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not leave the kids for any reason! He has you where he wants you. You need to stand up for yourself and you children. He is the one who moved out. You need a lawyer and fight . At this time he has his cake and is eating it to. Good Luck
2007-04-26 08:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by kellyfl59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow girl!!!!! I am soooo sorry....I just married a man that his exwife lives less than 2 blocks from me...accross the street so that she can see everything that we do...and that drives me insane...if you would like to chat...or just need a friend...please let me know...might be able to help you control some of your insanity...but please remember...your kids are your first priority!! and they need you!
2007-04-26 08:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by missks89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to find a lawyer who does probono work.
2007-04-26 08:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋