My significant other thinks that his time is more valuable than mine. He will often ask me to do things, when I am already in the middle of multiple tasks. It's as if he thinks I have nothing better to do. He works outside the home, and I stay home to take care of our children. Do any other SAHM's out there have this problem, and if you do, how do you deal with it?
2007-04-26 08:26:03 · 7 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may be assuming he feels that way. Have you mentioned TO HIM, how much this is bothering you?
If you're in the middle of something, just let him know you're busy, and unable to take care of it. Then forget about it.
When he next asks, tell him that you thought he took care of it, since you were busy at the time. A few times of this, and he may decide this is a matter of discussion. ;)
2007-04-26 08:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have that same issue! Ugh! It's annoying! I'm glad you asked though because I just get angry and tell him not to worry because super momma can take care of everything. He thinks even then I am kidding. A few months ago I talked him into taking our three oldest children to home depot with him. They are 6,5, and 3. After he had been gone a while I called and told him to stop at the grocery store and get a few things not to mention my van needed gas. So he had a better appreciation for me after that. All the while I laughed and told him that he didn't even have the baby what was he stressed about, hehe!
So talk your honey into taking all the kids on a few errands that would be really easy for a single person. Good luck!
2007-04-26 15:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by jhardinmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely tell him, "Sorry I can't help you right now, I am in the middle of something here." Start asking him regularly to do simple jobs that help you out around the house. Say, " Honey , I am really swamped, I want you to (insert job here)." Do this regularly and he will get the hint that you are not superwoman, ready to take care of the world. My husband is good at helping me and appreciative but there was a time where I let the housework go quite a bit and he figured out that I needed help. Also--I have 5 kids and I go around the house, point at things that belong to them or any object out of place and tell them where to put it. I tell them, "I need you to be my messenger." There is no reason why you have to do it all. They can help too, in fact they can probably take care of it all but feel no need to as long as you are doing it all. God bless you! :0)
2007-04-26 16:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that usually doesn't happen with a committed husband, who appreciates a SAHM totally, and is grateful she is doing everything.
2007-04-26 16:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a list of all the things you do on a daily and weekly routine. next to the list write how much money it would cost to have somebody else do it. then tally it up for a month. show him how much work you really do and how much it would cost to have someone else come do the work you are doing for free. maybe it will open his eyes. child care for one child can usually run up to 200 a week. show him your time is just as valuabke as his.
2007-04-26 15:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
WELL WHEN OUR KIDS WERE AT HOME I WOULD TELL HIM ILL DO IT IF I GT A CHANCE I NEVER MINDED DOING THINGS FOR HIM BUT HE NEDED TO KNOWWITH 3 BOYS AND HOUSE WORK AND COOKING AND SHOPPING I BARELY FOUND TIME TO GET A BATH TIL AFTE R 11PM HE ALWAYS UNDERSTOOD NOW THEY ARE ALL GROWN HE STILL ASK FOR ME TO DO THINKS AND IF I THINK I GOT THE TIME I WILL BUT IF I DONT I JUST TELL HIM IVE GOT THIS AND THAT TO DO IF I CAN I WILL BUT DONT COUNT ON IT AND HE WILL SAY WELL OK I WILLL I JUST THOUGHT YOU MIGHT
2007-04-26 15:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You know there can only be one chief in a tribe .If you think that you can be chief then your going to have to fight for it
2007-04-26 15:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by dad 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋