after 6 months of trying i have finally conceived (i'm 6 weeks pregnant) but now my partner of eight years has changed his mind and has decided he doesn't want a baby and can't cope with my mood swings. Should I ditch him and bring the baby up alone or stay with him and hope that he changes his mind?
p.s we already have a 6 year old son together
2007-04-26 07:46:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait and see what happens. And congratulations.
Just hold in there, remember to communicate. And please dont let these others get you down for not being "married". You are going to have a beautiful baby, how is your husband with your son? Probably a good dad or you wouldnt have been trying to have a second child. Men spook easy, this is one of the areas that scare the crap out of them. Just take it easy, remember to remind him to breath and everything will follow its course. Just try a little bit to control the mood swings, or do like i did if you feel it coming on on, give him a heads up so he can run and hide. Good luck
2007-04-26 07:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He decided he doesn't want another baby? HELLO! It's a little for him to decide that, isn't it? Maybe he is just scared or has the jitters. I would give him time to come around. My friend at work is almost six months pregnant. When she found out, it was a pure shock and a surprise. Her husband freaked at first and wanted her to have an abortion, said they were too old (34) and their only child is 13. Well, now he is elated and can't wait for that baby! Sometimes it just takes guys to come around faster than it does women. I say just give him some time. If, in a few months he still doesn't accept it, then you may not have a choice but to separate.
2007-04-26 14:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ditch him! You both are going to go thru different times in your life. That's what marriage is to support eachother when you do and he is the one right now. Having a baby is not easy and it does scare men, but it could be the most wonderful thing in both of your lives.
What you do and say right now will make all the difference, but you have to be strong and secure and know how important you are. You have the control, ability and the power to save your marriage. Don't forget that.
Take care of your husband right now in anyway you can just to make him happy. Show him that this will be no problem, that you can handle anything as a wife and mother.
Give him compliments to boost his ego. Tell him how much you love him, why you fell in love, how happy you are that your going to have another baby, how the two of you raising these children together will make you both so proud, overall, how you could never live without him. Sexual compliments too, the list goes on. You have to make him feel like a strong man that can take care of anything and he will not be able to live without you. Make sure your man loves to come home at night and he won't go anywhere. I wish you all the Luck.
2007-04-26 15:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats Mommy!
I don't think you should leave. Just like some women have jitters about a new baby on the way, thinking they wont be able to handle things, etc, men also have these feelings.
Give it time, the mood swings usually level out and things will be ok.
Once he sees that beautiful baby...his mind will be changed.
2007-04-26 14:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby--- if you tried for this long, YOU wanted the baby, too. Don't just change your mind now. Your partner is being immature at the moment, so give him a little longer to figure it out. If he doesn't figure out that he's being a jerk, leave him and raise the baby alone. Good luck with this. I wish you all the best.
2007-04-26 15:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks he's going to find another woman without mood swings, he's nuts. Women are moody creatures. It's just how we are. Smart men learn how to navigate them. Dumb men try and figure it out and fight it.
What he has done is really rotten. I mean REALLY rotten. Either he's been lying to you for the last 6 months WHILE having sex with you (BAD) OR, he's got something else going on.(could be worse than bad). Whatever his problem is, he's a lier.
In my opinion, and it's onl y my opinion, any man that stays with a woman for 6 years and KNOWINGLY gets her pregnant, not once but TWICE and THEN decides to leave her....is scum.
Treat this scum like you would any other scum in your house....GET RID OF IT!.
2007-04-26 15:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he doesn't want another child unless he changes his mind in the next 8 months then you will have to leave him. But you could give him a chance to get use to the idea before you make your choice.
2007-04-26 15:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for you to have mood swings while preggy.He needs to take a walk when you blow up theres no use in sitting around arguing.Then when things cool down if they cool down reconvene to many people want the last word or dig in.
2007-04-26 14:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just be having new baby anxiety, give him time and see how it goes. It's not an instant bonding experience for men like it is for women, women bond to their babies during pregnancy men don't usually get that feeling til after the baby is born.
2007-04-26 15:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by Trynitee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait. If things don't change then ditch him. You never why he is feeling this way or maybe you do...communicate. I am sure you do....but take some time out and find out what really is going on.
Good luck and congrats!
2007-04-26 14:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋