Am I Cheating On Him ?

Question

Is it cheating to communicate with other men from my computer at work when no actual sex talk occurs, just teasing and suggestive talk?? No real names are used and never will be.

Answer 1

I say run it by your husband. My wife is okay with a little flirting talk at work. Some spouses are, some aren't. In either case, I say the spouse makes the rules.

Answer 2

I have done the same thing. Unfortunately it came to the point where I felt like I really cared for this other person that I had never met and I wanted to meet him.

I realized after a while that I was having an emotional affair when I looked more forward to talking to this other man than I did my husband. I did stop the relationship with the other man but he got really hurt in the process.

I would stop now before you get to involved with this person.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

Cheating is not only physical, it is mental.

If you are talking sexually with men, then it is cheating.
If you don't stop, you will become numbed by the "talking" and want to take it to the next level.

Just stop now before it gets out of hand and find something else to do when you are at work.

Answer 4

This is a catch 22....

Is it "technically" cheating?

No!

But is it 100% wrong?

Yes!

It's just the fact that you feel bad enough about it (or guilty) that you brought it to this forumn which means you're questioning it yourself. And Im sure you're not sharing this "relationship" with your husband so that is a form of deception, and that in a nutshell is the start of cheating.

If it's completely innocent, your husband is the only one you should ask.

Remember, cheating is based on how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot...Would you like this?

Answer 5

Ask yourself this question, are you ok with your husband or boyfriend doing the same thing? I personally don't see anything wrong with it, and i know some attached females who do this, but it can lead to other things if your not careful. Know what i mean? And i would be very careful about engaging in this kind of activity at work if I were you. Employers can access your computers.

Answer 6

If you are giving emotional attention to other men that you should only be giving to your husband, that's called an emotional affair. I, for one, am unable to flirt or talk that way with other men. With my first marriage I did and it never bothered me. But I love my man so deeply I just don't even have any thoughts or feelings or needs to talk with, chat with, or flirt with any other man. Honestly, I don't understand in that way because I've always been a big flirt. Things that make you go "hmmmm".

Answer 7

No, this is not cheating. However, it is on the road to cheating, and by the fact that you are asking this question, know that it is or is leading to trouble. Go ahead and stop this action now before it leads to something that hurts someone or becomes something that you can't take back.

Answer 8

The best way to answer your own question is, would you tease and be suggestive whilst your partner was right there? If the answer is no, that's classed as cheating.

Answer 9

how would you feel if the role was reversed and it was your husband doing the same thing? would you feel cheated on if you found out he was talking and flirting and have suggested conversations with females? If it bothers you, then yes you're cheating.

Answer 10

I don't know if it's cheating but if it's something that you wouldn't do in front of your husband than I think it's wrong. I'm sure you and your husband have discussed what your definition of cheating is. If it would hurt him, then you shouldn't do it...plain and simple. Cheating is not only physical.