Ok I have a big problem. I like this guy named Joe. He doesn't know that I like him and I'm not really friends with him at all. My friends have told me that he hates girls and that if he found out that I liked him, he would go ballistic. He's not gay, I know that for a fact. And every time I see him I feel very upset inside because I know that he will probably never find out that I like him. He will never love me. I want to get to know him, but I'm so afraid that he will hate me. I have started to hate myself for falling for him. My parents and I are always fighting. Because both of those reasons, I cut myself at the beginning of the month. My mom found out and I told her that I was sick of her putting me down. So she doesn't do it as much as she used to.
I'm happy most of the time now, except when I see Joe because then I feel very sad when I look at him.
What do you think that I should do? Should I tell him that I like him or not?
2007-04-26 06:51:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I feel like that there is something special about this guy....but I can't place it.
2007-04-26 07:10:52 · update #1
Well, first of all, you need to realize that you are looking for attention because your parents are fighting a lot and you are not having a happy home life. I did the same thing when I was your age. My parents were abusive and fought all the time, and I would do anything to just hang out with my friends, and especially guys. I wanted the love and attention. It was not the best thing for me.
Why not try just talking to Joe sometime? Just walk up to him and say "Hi, I heard you don't like girls. Is that true?" and he will either say "YES, now scram!" or "NO! Who told you that!" and then you can start a conversation. Just be nice and try to laugh and make it like it's no big deal. Tease him a bit every time you see him, but smile at him. He'll like that. Bat your eyes and him and blow him a kiss. He will be totally embarrassed, but if he does like girls, he will secretly like it.
Then, find a good friend to talk to about all this. Don't cut yourself, please. It's a really, really dangerous thing to do and not cool. If you keep doing it, please tell a teacher or the school counselor and ask for some help.
I want to be a school counselor some day and help kids like you. God bless you, sweetie. I wish I could be there for you as a big sister or an auntie and help you through this time in your life. Being a teenager sucks.
2007-04-26 06:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one the first thing you should do is stop cutting yourself. There is no guy in the world that is worth hurting yourself over. Take it from someone that has been there before. The second thing you need to do is try and talk to him. Don't just go on what your friends have told you go out for your self and find out. If it turns out that he hates girls then try and get your mind off of him and try to find someone new to like.
2007-04-26 13:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by innocent~1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt the same way about a girl for 3 years. after she broke up with her boyfriend 2 years later, i asked her out, but she never responded. I still thought there was something special about her, and held the hope that she would come around even after she found another boyfriend. I don't know what happened, but about 6 months later, I finally realized that it was never going to work out. i was really depressed for a few days, but now i'm over it and i don't even care anymore. so most likely it won't work out and will take awhile to "sink in", but eventually you'll realize it and then its time to forget and look towards your other options.
2007-04-26 16:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by milan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him you like him yuo can finally move on. Either he likes you too, and this is time wasted you could be together, or if her doesnt, this is time wasted you could be over him and happy with someone else.
Hmmm, the cutting, i am curious to why you included it in your question. I know that seems like a quick relief of pain for you, but as you know, it does not work. Can you find someone to vent on regarding this matter? There are teen supoprt lines, I am sure they cant be too hard to find. Good luck
2007-04-26 15:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by dakini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him that you like him because then you will know that you did what you could. Maybe he likes you and maybe he doesn't but at least you tried. If he doesn't just move on and you will always remember him but you will meet the right guy someday and you will be happy with him. Maybe he does and it turns out that he is the right guy either way you win because you tried. Good luck.
2007-04-26 15:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by thomas m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems like he needs time to grow up, hon. Things change...and I know its hard to feel something and hold it in. But he is not ready for a girl in his life and naturally is avoiding it. If it is meant to be, it will happen in time. Dont go all emo on me now, sweetie...cutting yourself doesnt solve anything.
2007-04-26 14:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by RedVengeance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a friend to talk to him about you and see what his opinion about you is, if it's good, make a move, if not, forget and move on.
2007-04-26 14:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by black_lightning 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋