How do you KNOW when you are ready to get married?

Question

So many people say you just know .....but these people still usually end up getting a divorce....how do you know when you are truly ready?

Answer 1

No one is ever really ready to get married.

Answer 2

I don't know to be honest, in my case i was told i was ready LOL. Seriously, i really don't have an answer that your looking for. All i can say is that song by meatloaf, paradise by the dashboard lights gets a whole new meaning after marriage. I love my wife to death, but if i had the chance to do it over there would be NO way i would do it again. Way too hard at times, the good does outway the bad but man it takes alot of work. This is of course after i just got off the phone with her and had a fight...

Answer 3

If you have to ask, then you are NOT ready. Marriage takes a lot of work, patience, love, and understanding. You have to be ready, willing and able to put up with anything and everything that life throws at the both of you, the good, the bad, and yes, the ugly. Marriage is not something anyone should take lightly. It is a serious commitment of one soul to another.

So if you have to ask if you are ready, you probably aren't yet. Take your time, think it through, and make absolutely sure that you are ready, willing, and able to dedicate your whole life to this person, is the best advice I can give you.

Best wishes.

Answer 4

When you think you are ready make sure the other person is ready and then move in together for a long period of time (like 3 years). If you still want to marry this person go for it.

Answer 5

When all that stuff about pre-nups and such just doesn't matter anymore, you're ready.
When the cry in your heart for your love won't be stopped by anything, or anyone, you're ready.
When you can see in his eyes him helping you around when you're 80, you're ready.
When you're relationship has stood the test of time, at least a year or so, and you look back at all the good times, and the bad times, and you just say I wouldn't have it any other way for the rest of my life. you're ready.
When the thought of going back out on the dating scene brings nothing but revulsion, and horror. You're ready.
When the thought of spending one more night home alone royally pisses you off, you're ready.
When your desire to spend your life with someone else outweighs any feeling of staying "free", even though you're an independent individual, financially capable, and mature enough to take care of youreself, you're ready.
When words like us, we, respect, sharing, and togetherness mean a thousand times more than words like I, me, mine, or alone, you're ready.
Marrige is not two people who happen to live in the same house and share the same bed. Marrige is two people who have committed their lives to making each other emotionally secure, and loved. Love doesn't come and go. Love, properly nurtured and developed is permanant. A marriage is a lot of work. 24/7/365. But you never really realize that you're directly "working" on anything, because a marriage, properly developed, and sustained becomes second nature to those in it.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

well what they say is right
one day you will wake up and you will want to spend the rest of your life with that other person and you wont be scared of worried at all

but the one thing they are doing wrong when they get married is they forget the hard work they have to put into it

marriage is so hard its one of the hardest things you will have to do
you will have to deal with there sick morning breathe and there nasty bathroom habits and all there stupid ideas and you will never get a moment by yourself and it gets on your nerves

but after a while those things dont bother you so much anymore and if you really love that person you can see past those things and you will grow together as a couple

so that's why they get divorced they dont put forth the effort and trust me it will be the hardest thing you do but it will also be the best thing in your life and give you so much happiness

Answer 7

Any couple in love should take at least a year to really get to know one another.

At first, you're just dating and "on your best behavior." You have to be honest enough to display your whole personality; not hide your weak points.

You need to really discuss all the issues that are important to both of you; sex, children, careers, money, religion, politics, philosophy, whatever...

You need to take a hard look at each other and decide that neither one is too neurotic to live with full time.

Of course, you also need to understand the importance of compromise, sympathy and forgiveness.

We're all human, and we tend to screw-up on occasion. How you deal with problems and whether or not you can forgive, forget and move on, is the critical thing.

Answer 8

aside from knowing that you are both in love and all that, know each other's credit scores and debt to asset ration and be both willing to sign a prenuptial agreement if one person has more assets than the other or if there is a particular thing or twoyou treasure such as your great grandmother's antique drawer (of course whatever assets you both incur during the marriage are normally split evenly if anything should happen in your relationp) as a sign of trust and willingness to be clear on all financial matters. note: unfortunately, i have met several divorced folks during my life-time and they always say they should have done the pre-nup as it would have expedited matters and not be so tangled up with negative emotions on both parties...
nonetheless, may you have a happy and lasting marriage

Answer 9

I have been married and divorced.. and then alone for 7 yrs. I married young. After that, for 5 yrs, I wanted to be alone.,. i started to date after that and I know now, that I am mentally and physically ready and I know that I will never make the same mistakes again..

Answer 10

Feeling ready for it today, is no guarantee it won't end at some point...those are 2 completely different issues.

If you feel ready to share your life, love, and assets with someone else then do it for as long as you both feel its good and right...if that's "forever" then great, if not then when it's not longer right for you both, it's time to part ways. Marriage doesn't have to be 'til death to be a great and fulfilling experience...

Answer 11

Marriage, statisticly is really like taking a 50/50 chance. You will know you are ready when you can truly picture spending the rest of your life together till death.