We are swingers and my wife told me don't even think about it unless she is married and all four of us connect together.
Here is what I am thinking about doing. I will tell this girl about who we are and that I need her to get a good looking guy to pose as her hubby then meet us for drinks at our house. Then we can see if there if there is chemistry then if there is, do what we do.
Would this be too sneaky even for a swinger couple?
2007-04-26 06:41:57 · 12 answers · asked by sxycpl4ya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Should I have even told my wife and tried to do it discreetly?
2007-04-26 06:42:46 · update #1
DS, you are right. I am not being selfish. I even want the girl to bring in a hunk for my wife. I want my wife to have fun also.
2007-04-26 06:56:51 · update #2
I thought being a swinger was all about total honesty. I think you are sailing into dangerous waters Captain.
BTW, it seems you have picked up a parasite that flames you on every question you ask. The one posting as "Tirya licks glaze" or something like that. What a loser.
2007-04-26 07:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by misty_ghostdancer_1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What was your purpose for telling her? Were you trying to make the wife jealous? Were you warning her that you have other choices and she'd better shape up? Were you laughing about how silly such an idea is? What was your point?
One might also wonder, or suggest, did you perhaps misinterpret the 19 year old's intentions? It is very possible. Young girls can be very silly and not realize their flirtations are actually taken as being serious by older people, when they don't mean that at all. Watch your step!
2007-04-26 13:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I honestly think you are lucky enough that you don't have a highly possessive wife. You are "allowed" to do ALOT of things other men only dream about, and you are still thinking about lying to her? That is silliness. You can do what most women consider cheating already. I think you should thank the Lord that you are lucky to have a secure woman and go on from there. I am sorry.
2007-04-26 13:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deceitful! You must really want this chick so much that you are not willing to be honest with your wife. I would think that trust is more important in a swinging relationship than any other type of relationship.
2007-04-26 13:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK that is just sick!!! she is 19 and your 45!!! What the heck!!! No you should not talk to that girl anymore!! She would probably not do that at all, somehow your wife will find out and youll be in the doghouse. DONT DO IT!!!!!
2007-04-26 13:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Butterfli a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
[1] Her saying to you, "Stop staring at me or I'm calling the police, creep-o." is NOT flirting.
[2] You *do* have vivid daydreams for a guy with a pencil nub of a self-abused pecker, face and back zits, 3 spare tires, 4 chins, a hairy back, permanent sweat beads on your lip, who is typing on a splooge-encrusted keyboard in your mom's basement.
2007-04-26 14:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that isin't wrong. You should tell your wife if you are swingers. We are to so I know what it is like. Keep begin honest.
2007-04-26 14:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell the girl to get a guy like you said and then all will be fair. It's better to be open about your wants and desires as you would want her to do with you.
2007-04-26 13:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have any respect for your wife at all?
she has told you what circumstances would be allowable, and thats down to you two as a couple, anything else she has made it clear is off limits
2007-04-26 13:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are being deceitful and that is wrong. Think with your brain not your crotch. If you have a swinging lifestyle you KNOW it is based on TOTAL honesty. Don't f*** it up.
2007-04-26 13:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋