My boyfriend and I agreed on a abortion at first but I changed my mind due to having lost 2 close family members this year and before this year he never had his half of the money. Now he say I am wrong for backing out because I want to keep my baby and he already got kids and another baby will mess his life up and he think we cant live in the same city because he dont want nobody to find out about the baby but his mother stays right across from my aunt and I told him since he feel like my baby will mess his life up then he can get the hell stepping.Am I wrong for wanting to keep my baby and xing him out please give me some advice. what would you do
2007-04-26 06:30:40 · 60 answers · asked by choppa g 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No, you are not wrong. I personally am pro-life. I think you should kick him to curb and just file for child support. No one should tell you that taking a life is okay. Hang in there things will work out. It may be hard, but stay strong for yourself and your little one to be.
2007-04-26 06:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you might think u are wrong now, or regret the first few weeks when the baby is born. but i can assure you that after the baby turns 1 month old, you will have the joy and happiness you can never buy or feel! i have the same struggle as u and i insisted and gave birth. now my baby is almost 7th month old and i have the most wonder time being with him! your newborn will make u navie and keep laughing. seriously having him to step out and u dumping him is the correct move! because man tend to control what they want to do to the baby when actually mother knows best what to do with the baby! so without him you can ease your mind and don't have to explain so much to someone else about what are you doing and why are you doing to baby! =D
get your family to support your decision as they can play a big part in attending to the baby when you return work and also you can at least have some rest and someone cooking for you after birth and start planning how much in total is to raise your baby up. if it is not enough, go and get a job and start earning the money now because don;t expect to return to work until one month after the baby is born as you will be extremely tired taking care of your newborn! best is breastmilk! because it helps u to save money on milk powder and also it prevent most childhood illness and strengthen the baby's health! therefore wont get sick easily and thus save money to visit doctor!!! must rememeber, no matter how times might be, time files and baby growth is very very fast! so cherish every moment with your newborn! before you know all the probelms you have now turned into happiness! =D GOD BLESS YOU! =D
2007-04-26 06:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by youngmummy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've answered another question such as this one and no you are not wrong. I do not believe in abortions he should have thought about everything before he had sex with you.
If it was me... I would keep the baby and get all the help I could from the state... I know where I live they have food stamps, wic and all sorts of things you can get help with for you and your infant. I wouldn't have an abortion just because he wants to. Why would you want to kill an infant that has never had a chance at life?? Children are blessings from God and God must have a plan for you if he gave you the blessing the have a child. There are thousands of people in the world wanting children andcan't have them.. If you don't want the child then have it and giveit up for adoption... Goodluck
2007-04-26 06:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong at all. If he didn't get you the money for his half than he's got nothing to say. Also you have every right in the world to want your baby. Its not fair for him to want you to put your life on hold and not have kids because he has children himself. And as far as not living in the same city you can tell him bye if he wants to move than thats fine but you can stay wherever you want to. He sounds like a big jerk and you and that sweet baby deserve someone better if he is gonna be like that. I hope this helps. Good Luck with all the baby planning and just have fun with it.
2007-05-01 05:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Amelia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitly not wrong for wanting to keep your baby, I would have told him to go to hell too. It took both of you to make that baby, and he is just as responsible for it as you are! If he doesnt want it, then hit his *** up for child support, he needs to atleast help you take care of it some way! A child is a person too, and just because it isnt born yet doesnt mean that its ok for it to die, a baby has just as much right to life as you and I do, and you made the right decision to keep your baby, abortion should never be an option. If he wants nothing to do with your baby then piss on him, atleast he/she will have you, a loving mother! Good Luck and best wishes!
2007-05-02 09:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not wrong. He's a selfish prick to even think that. If he was so worried about a baby ruining his life he should have thought about it before he let it out his pants. Even if you agreed to it you have a right to change your mind. It's your body, and its not just his baby its yours as well, and you do not want to make a decision based on what he wants because it doesn't seem like he's thinking of you and your feelings.
Think about what you want, you'd have to live with getting rid of your baby. He has kids of his own, and this is you and your decision, don't do something that you'll regret. Because you're the one who'll be on the operating table, it will stay on your conscience not his. Do what’s in your heart.
2007-04-26 06:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by tinkchick87 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely not wrong! If he didn't want another baby, he shouldn't even take the chance!
I would have done the same thing you did - why should you & your unborn child suffer? Because it will mess HIS life up? Pathetic!
It's better to do it on your own (or with just family help), than to have someone who would rather you have an abortion for his own selfish reasons - I say good for you! :o)
I hope you have a happy healthy pregnancy!
2007-05-04 01:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by ohsnapbeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, your are not wrong for wanting your baby!!!! You might have felt like you wanted to in the beginning but as the baby has grown inside you it's natural to change your mind. I really feel like you should follow your heart and not do it just because of him, he's not the one who will have to live with the abortion on his conscious YOU ARE! Believe me when i was younger i got an abortion only because my boyfriend wanted me to and i was extremely depress for a few months because i felt so bad and that was not what i wanted. that was 7yrs ago and i still think about it now. i'm 5wks pregnant now and wouldn't even consider it if my boyfriend came to me with that matter. i would tell him he don't have to be there to cause more stress to me and my baby and when the child is born file for support on him so he'll least have to be there finacially. we are two completely different people so it'll probably affect you different, i can only say Follow Your Heart!!
2007-05-04 03:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you first of all way to go!!!!
This is after all a part of you and you wouldn't want to harm yourself I believe that you made the best decision I mean after all any man that can't except your baby doesn't deserve you if it was me I would have did the same thing that you did I thank that it is beautiful when a woman has a baby and believe me it is a wonderful feeling holding your baby and to know that you made this little life and gave them a chance at life.
2007-04-26 06:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong for not having an abortion, He can get a steppen. Make your baby your life, for get his a**, he doesnt deserve you and your baby dont need that kind of guy. Give it your all to rise that baby the best you can, and give him all that love, because when you have your baby in your arms, and he gives you a smile, and when you hear him say mom for the first time, then you will know that all that hard work is payen off. So keep your baby and work hard for him and yourself. Best of Luck
2007-04-26 06:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm happy for you. It's your baby, your body, your decision. Just bc you are having the baby doesn't mean it will mess up his life. you don't need his help, he dont even have to have anything to do with it... you can find a real man who will step up and be a dad. there are lots of guys out there who don't care if you have kids and are more than happy to be a dad... you tell this guy to go eff himself and go find a real man! good luck girl you made the right choice... abortion is wrong anyway! this guy is an ***!
2007-05-04 03:07:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋