My 11 year old is soo rude I will get her the coolest things and she will trun up her nose at them and is soo hurt full. I just got her a Guess tankini. She said that she didn't like the fact that is had an elastic waist band. WHAT how els will it stay up. My other 11 year old loved it. We are not rich and can't afford alot. It realy hurts that she wont stop begging for things. She has all she needs and more you would think we were rich but that is not good enough for her. What can I do to teach her what her rudeness is doign.
2007-04-26 06:19:36 · 11 answers · asked by Marvelgirl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Stop buying for her, especially if she doesn't need it. I have an 11 year old daughter, and her father and I live paycheck to paycheck. We make her do chores and keep those grades good in order for her to receive an allowance so that she can buy something that she wants. She knows the deal, and a rude attitude towards us, the adults, is NOT tolerated.
She does not pay any bills, and she did not bring you into this world, so don't tolerate her rude attitde.
When I was a child, I didn't have choices. I either wore what was bought for me or I wore a spanking. Wearing the clothes was the better choice. Just a thought!
2007-04-26 06:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Sinister, she knows that you are buying her stuff and looking for appreciation and so if you quit buying her things and have her do chores for $5 or $10 a week and let her get an idea that $49.99 for a tee shirt is outrageous, she may start appreciate the value of money rather than expect even bigger and better. Thats what my mom did for me, I was doing chores at 5 and buying my own toys and that and so when mom went out of her own pocket it was nice that I didn't have to work to get it and I appreciated it more, now that I'm 25 she has instilled into my mind that if you want something you have to work hard to get it, not handed to you.
2007-04-26 13:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by JCo* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fact: Children are unappreciative. My oldest is 6 and he already complains about every toy I buy him. I surprise him with a new toy and he always comes up with something why he doesn't like it. I finally told him, "Well next time I won't get you anything at all, how about that?" He shut up.
Now, whenever I buy him a toy I'll take him with me so he can pick out what HE likes. That way I don't hear any grief.
But also, try not to take it so personal. We as mothers have no limits when it comes to our children and they don't see everything we do for them. Plus, their young age keeps them from getting that point as well. They are children! They say off the wall hurtful things sometimes, but we just have to remember that they are still immature and have a lot of growing to do. They don't realize how bad that sounds.
2007-04-26 13:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes stop buying her stuff.... tell her that since she doesnt appreciate a gift here and there (since you dont have a lot of money and cant really afford) that she isnt going to get anything at all!.. sounds kinda cruel i know... since your other daughter seems to appreciate things more then her i guess you could still continue to buy her stuff... and if the other one says anything just simply tell her that she hasnt earned it yet.. (well you could easily pick her up one to and give it to her after she has earned it i guess)
Or you could simply do a routine of chores between both girls and give them weekly allowance and get them to buy there own things
well good luck!
2007-04-26 13:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by lilmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I plan to take my daughter to Mexico on vacation by the time she starts acting like that and show her the slums and hopefully that will wake her up a bit. I think so many American kids are spoiled and just expect everything to be handed to them. They don't realize that the rest of the world, maybe 90% of the humans on earth barely have enough to eat and are lucky to have clean water and shoes on their feet.
2007-04-26 13:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit buying her things. Let her earn her own money around the house and buy the things she wants herself. Then she will realize that those things have value. In this case the time she has to work to earn the money to buy them. You'll find she'll be more grateful when you buy her things.
2007-04-26 13:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first answer is right on.. She needs to earn her own money and buy her own things! Then she will learn that you get what you can pay for and thats it...
2007-04-26 13:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, YOU made her that way obviously.
My dad would have never have bought me a name brand bathing suit to begin with! He gave me everything I needed and nothing I wanted (he made me work for that stuff!). That's how you do it.
2007-04-26 14:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop buying her stuff for no reason, make her do chores and earn money to buy her own things.
2007-04-26 13:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her flat out this is what you get or nothing you decide and then do not buy her anything
2007-04-26 15:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋