I am getting a divorce. I had to move out of my home. I have 4 kids. The youngest goes to college in the fall. I haven't gone to court yet to establish maintence. (Allomony)
I have eight dollars to my name. I am not working. I have applied for several jobs. It is very hard to find anything when you have been a stay at home mom for 23 yrs. My husband cheated on me, but I am the one paying for it. I need to know if there is anywhere I can get finacial help.
Right now my husband is paying my rent. But he keeps reminding me that it can end any time he wants.
Someone please help me!
2007-04-26 06:10:38 · 11 answers · asked by dvanert38 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Excuse me he said it could anytime soon??? He is the one who cheated and wasn’t honest enough to break off the marriage before starting a new relationship. You where with this man for 23 years and was a stay at home mom. Yes it’s incredibly hard to find a job when you resume is full of diapers, games, and practices and so forth.
Wow he seems pretty selfish.
I don’t know where you live, there are a number of social programs out there for support.. Not welfare but another type of support. You will contact your local government building to get details. Plus they will also help you build up resources and courses to get you up to par for finding a job. They too will also pay for schooling. 23 years being a parent and being forced into the work force is something they would know how to handle this and what they will do for you.
2007-04-26 06:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left a cheating & abusive husband. I had a small child, no job and about $1 to my name. I had to swallow my pride and get welfare. I was on it about 8 months until I got a job, it felt good to be able to support myself. If you can't find a job, go to court and get the allomony set up & while your there have them make your husband pay for you to go back to school so you can get some training. There has to be something you want to do. Make him pay for it after all you raised the kids for 23 years.
2007-04-26 13:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Girly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you own a home where you had any equity? If so sell it and take your half of the money. If not what about community property that you can sell. I real feel for you. Being a stay at home mom myself this is one thing that stay at home moms must prepare for. My friend has a stash of money her husband doesn't even know about for this very reason. You can probably go to and get some public aid until you can find a job. Just hang in there and try to stay positive, I wish you the best. Good luck.
2007-04-26 13:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life has its Hardships I should know me and my father have been through almost all of them the best way is to keep a good Self -esteem and Always tell yourself that you will get through this and you will Get a Job and Become a Stronger person and when you do Just forget about Your Ex-husband .
2007-04-26 13:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by [Rob] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be so hard for you, keep strong you will get through this! You may be paying now but God will not let him get away with this! Go to your family independance agency and ask for help. Next you need to get into that court and get him to pay for his share the childrens care. That way he cant deny you or mentally abuse you by saying i can cut you off at any time.
2007-04-26 13:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated, why isn't he the one moving out??? Don't worry once you go to court, being the woman you will get half of everything he owns. After all it's the American way.
2007-04-26 13:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have a lawyer? A divorce can drag out for a long time! You need a judge to force him to pay temporary spousal support for the time being.
2007-04-26 13:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whydid u stay home , we have 4 kids and we both work. So u r saying he needs to pay out of his as s because u wanted to stay home with the kids? PLEASE, get a job!
2007-04-26 13:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by jackassdumbassmyass 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why isn't he the one to be moving out?
Get a good lawyer, and get a job.
2007-04-26 13:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welfare is there to help you get back on your feet. That's what it is ideally for,,, it can give you some breathing room... consider food stamps too...
2007-04-26 13:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by aspicco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋