should i give my virginity p 2 him?

Question

me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 3 and 1/2 weeks and i was thinking about giving my virginity up 2 him! should i? hes nows this is a big deal 2 me, so he doesnt push it, and i really respect tht! i was thinking last nite about it, but im still sorta debatin! help! the only thing i am afraid of is getting pregnant! p.s. im 15

Answer 1

If you are looking for the answer here, you are not ready. Pregnancy isn't the only thing to be concerned about either. You also have to be concerned with STDs. 15 is not mature enough to handle these consequenses. Wait a few years before you give it up.

Answer 2

Virginity is not something you can get back. Once it is gone it is gone forever. You have known this boy/man? not even a whole month, yet. You have not been through all of the seasons of a year.

Yes, I remember 15. I remember hormones rageing out of control. I remember the cycles of a woman's body. When a woman is ovalating her hormones peak and she desires a mate. This is normal and healthy.

This is also the time that she is most likely to get pregnant.

Pregnancy is not the only thing to be feared.

STDs are just as life changeing. At 15 you probably haven't met the man you will want to spend your life with. That may be 5 or more years down the road.

Would you want to tell someone you love and hope to have spend the rest of his life with you that you have genital herpes? The only way to not spread genital herpes is to use a condom. This is not what most people want in a lifetime relationship.

Did I mention HIV?

Condoms fail about 6% of the time. That means that 6 people out of 100 end up with whatever they didn't want, be it disease, pregnancy or both. (You can use a search engine to verify that figure.) When I read this in a Focus on the Family publication, I realized that this was about like playing Russian Roulette with a 6 shot pistol. Very scary.

True love will wait until the time is right. Yes, marriage. I know that sounds old fashioned.

I sit here with forty years experiece behind me. I now have the marriage that I wanted so desperatly all my life. I thank God that he kept me from seriously ruining my life forever.

There are many things that I could share, I guess I could write a book about it. But, I wish that I had not rushed into relationships that were not the right one and given to my husband all of a mind and body that had never been with another man.

Answer 3

I don't think you should. I think it is just your hormones talking and not your head or heart. You have only been dating 3 1/2 weeks, that is not nearly long enough to love someone. To be in LUST, yes, but in LOVE, no.

The fact that your asking makes me think you are not ready. Lets go down a list of things that you HAVE to think about and answer before the deed is done.
1. Are you prepared for the likelihood that your BF will not be by your side for the rest of your life? Only 2% of high school sweethearts have a lifetime together.
2. Are you ready for the stigma? I know it today's day and age it seems like everyone is doing it. They aren't. Some, yes, are having sex, but most aren't or did it once and stopped.
3. Are you ready for the gossip? You think women can gossip....men are MUCH worse. His buddies will know ALL about you.
4. If you get pregnant what would you do? Your parents are under NO obligation to help you with your pregnancy nor with your child should you choose to keep it. You wouldn't be the first 15/16 yr old kicked out for being pregnant.
5. What if you get an STD? No one thinks it will happen to them, and that is why people end up with STDs. Talk about stigma! Also some STDs are life long. They never go away! Your death is a long LONG way away, imagine living with herpes or warts for the rest of your life. How do you feel about that?

I'm not saying that you should wait for marriage. But I am saying if this is such a big deal to you don't you think you should have a little more invested in him before you give him the gift that you can only give once. Frankly I would wait until you are out of H.S.. You can have a good time without having sex, and you can show affection in other ways other than sex.

Answer 4

Your vinginity is the most prielss thing you have. Why would you consider giving it to just anyone? You say your boyfriend isnt just anyone. But he is if you have only been acquainted with him less than a month! You dont know him or owe him. Why is your mind more focus on having sex than on getting to KNOW this person's heart. Do you want to base ALL your relationships on sex or friendship. I really believe you are about to make a serious mistake. Just to think about doing something like that so casually. God make the body to be valued, not used for self gratification. He made sex to be an expression of love, not lust or curosity. Why are you young people so hung up on sex? No wonder most of you all relationships don't last. You are basing it on the wrong foundation.

Take a hard look around you. Study your peers and the consequences they are serving for not listening to good advice from those who have been THERE and done THAT and regret it DEEPLY!

Early wisdom is better than late.******

Answer 5

Please wait til you are much older .If he's not pushing the subject neither should you he might think differently about you if make the first move especially if you get pregnant he might say it was your idea you deal with it when you get yourself into a situation like that even the nicest guy can turn on you.

Answer 6

NO NO NO AND HELL NO!!!!!!! 15 is way too young to give that up. 3 1/2 weeks dating....... give me a break. if your askin for the opinion of complete strangers, then you know you shouldnt do it. if your gonna do it anyway, MAKE SURE he wears a condom. even that isnt 100% safe to keep you from gettin pregnant.