My son met up with a girl who he'd been crazy about for years. He paid for her divorce, and they were quite happy. She has 2 kids, a 5 year old girl and a boy going on 2. He has been very good to her, and asked her to marry him. She was quite happy about it. Then she got pregnant.
Then all of a sudden things changed. She wouldn't talk to him or cook or clean.
Then her daughter told her dad that my son slapped her in the face, and he called CPS. They investigated, and it turned out that she had lied. My son felt like a criminal in his own home, when he had done nothing wrong.
His woman had already been acting funny and wouldn't talk to him. We advised him to go home and talk to her and work it all out. When he got home, all he found was a note telling him that she was not happy. She had packed up clothes and said that she would come back for the rest of her things.
He's totally confused, and thinks maybe she was using him. Need objective feedback. I'm confused too!
2007-04-26 05:41:26 · 14 answers · asked by karenhar 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She had been acting funny before the CPS thing. He felt that she had something on her mind, but wouldn't talk to him.
2007-04-26 05:43:58 · update #1
Her ex husband has done and said some weird things. Anyone think he could have threatened her with something?
2007-04-26 05:50:31 · update #2
It's a bad situation because your son loves this woman and now she is pregnant with his child. If all these changes after she found out about having another child, could it be that this child is not your son's? Maybe she realized this and got scared. Yes, in a way she did use him, she should have paid for her own divorce instead of allowing him, but on the otherhand we allow ourselves to be used. I hope once this child is born your son will have test done to make sure this one is his. I'm sure he is confused, who wouldn't be when it okay one minute and then gone the next. Maybe your son can sort through all this and get his life back on track. Stress will make us sick, so as a parent I can understand how you feel also.
2007-04-26 05:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is truly a situation that I don't even know where to begin but I think that things probably happened all too fast for her and she never recovered from the divorce in the first place. But another possibility could be what has already been stated and that is that she could just have wanted someone to pay for the divorce for her because she couldn't afford it. But it truly is a sad situation that your son has to go through but he will be better off in the long run.
2007-04-26 12:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by benz s55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect this woman is Bi-Polar...and beyond your son's help. Meds taken for a life time may or may not bring it under control...but in any event, although your son is hurting and confused, he should run to the nearest exit, not walk. Sorry to be so brutal, but life with a bi-polar is anything BUT what you would want for your son.
I wouldn't be so quick to judge the girl...if she is of sound mind, your son was too young to tell the difference in rebounding and true love. The girl could easily have transferred her love for her ex to him...very common...but not long lasting. She, at least, has come to her senses and taken the easy way out...be thankful your son was not more engrained into her life...time does that. He will survive just fine, we all do. But in the meantime, just be supportive without catering to his self pity...a very fine line to tread. Good luck
2007-04-26 12:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the child isn't your sons baby. Maybe she was using him because she had no way to get out of her first marriage, whatever her reasons are she is wrong for acting this way and if your son is smart he will produce the bank statements showing that he paid for her divorce and other fees associated with it and sue her. He should also get a paternity test when the baby is born, just to be sure.
2007-04-26 12:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be suffering from a bad case of hormones from the pregnancy and has internalized anger over her past failed relationship. But remember, although your son did wonderful things for her and provided for her, he may have said or portrayed something (even in a moment of anger, especially after the CPS investigation, or even about her daughter) that with a mixture of pregnancy hormones sent her flying in fear of another failed relationship. Try not to expect the worse because you don't want to harbor bad feelings over something that may be mistaken now and turn out fine later. Why don't you try to contact her and make sure she is ok and is provided for well enough to facilitate a good pregnancy for your grandchild. Relay your concern over her health but don't interfere with their personal business or even bring it up but be an open ear if she decides to open up, making no judgements. You could even suggest a little shopping for general baby items to see if she will clue you in but once again don't push her. If you cause a bad feud now, you could be fighting to see your grandchild years from now. It's the more flies with honey than vinegar sentiment.
2007-04-26 12:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by Tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she is going to do this again there are people out there that has kids with differnt men they get more child support that way and collect more wellfair this maybe the case the only way to find out is to see is after she has the baby if she moves to the next guy there not much you can do about it but at least you will know
2007-04-26 12:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by tigger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all she wanted was for someone to pay for her divorce and then when she had another baby reality hit on her. All she is thinking now is to get away from everyone and not worry what happens or who she hurts. But your son needs to amke sure it's his baby and make sure to file for custody of the baby.
2007-04-26 12:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking that she is overwhelmed, and the hormones from the pregnancy are not helping.
Hormones can make you do weird things...be super mean, exceptionally happy, etc.
If she was in a depressive state, the hormones could make it worse...
That's all I can think of.
2007-04-26 12:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda sounds like a gold digger to me - one of those women who have kids just for the child support so they don' t have to work. Sad to say but there are women like that. Your son needs to divorce her. Support his baby but stay far away from this women...........when she messes up then there's his chance to get his baby. Man! - i'm sick of women like this myself. Good Luck to him.
2007-04-26 12:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wanted someone to pay for her divorce. Or she could be cheating.
2007-04-26 12:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋