do men ever think about...?

Question

the sex they had in a past relationship/marriage?
for example if there new girl doesn't like BJ's and the old one loved it and he loved it (obviously) what are the odds he will cheat or they wont work out because he knows there is someone out there who is willing to give him better sex?

this is hypothetical!

its just a question! it has nothing to do with anyone real i was just wondering!

Answer 1

This is why it's not all that smart to have those relationships outside of a married relationship.

It all depends on the guy. If he is always talking about it and always wanting it, and he's not committed to the current relationship, look out. But, look, a guy that's going to cheat will use any excuse at his disposal, so really, it isn't about the past relationships.

Answer 2

Yes I think most do. And do compare the present with the past. After all how many times do you hear about their previous encounters????... Well when your 18 to 24 it’s a mans peak time… where as a women’s hits later in life. Sure some of there stories are good… but compared to now.. Was it better?? Sure maybe a couple of times… but in general HELL NO……Experience and experimenting is what makes sex more interesting you need experience to really say or try to compare…

Yes I can also see a man being disappointed when the women he is with now doesn’t give head. A first its okay but there will be times he REALLY, REALLY wants it.. And there are a number of women who just won’t do it. I can see problems arising.. After all its always the small things that add up to build a huge fight and separation.

Before settling down with anyone.. Communication and sex need to be talked about very freely and openly… Try and get the needs and wants out in the open and work it into the relationship. To help keep the spark there experimenting is dam important.

When I first started seeing my other half he was in the “old fashioned mode” where his experience was limited… didn’t do much for a change (position wise or any type of experimenting). Now that is a big one for me… I was worried it would be the same over and over again.. and I would just have to accept it…. NOW he is seeing the benefits and wants to change things up.

Sex really is important need to get the bugs out before problems arise later down the road. Anyone would loose interest not just a man. I can easily see people splitting up over this.

Answer 3

Hypothetically; if the women doesn't like to do it and the man wants it, maybe the man should move on to find the one who suits his needs and the women should do the same, instead of getting to deep into a serious relationship which might open the possibility of cheating.

For a relationship to work, you must be honest with yourself, and honest with your partner, and if you can't work together to get passed certain issues, well then, it would be time to find someone else.

If your willing to stay with your partner, but not willing to serve your partner, then what "good" are you to your partner? Find the partner that you are willing to stay and serve, and is able to do the same to you. "Hypothetically"

Use you past experience to learn from, and make the best choices for the future. (and if you really don't have any past experience; you have to start somewhere)

Answer 4

Relationship based on sex tend not to work. (Past experience )the same can be said for marriage only over a larger time frame.That said if you honestly love some you need to know everything about them good or bad. And not care!

So in answer to your question if you don't like giving bj,s don't. be honest

Answer 5

There are a lot of things my husband loved in his prior relationships, but he respects my wishes not to try everything, and I know he'd never cheat on me. A lady (I use the term loosely) he works with even said. "You mean if someone offered you a BJ you wouldn't accept?!?" And he responded, "Not unless Kelly said it was OK." Of course, this "lady" just got caught in a rather compromising position with a supervisor AT WORK, and he wonders now if it wasn't an offer (he shuddered at the thought).

Answer 6

some times a women should open up i have had this bj problem from one girl to the other you need to meet have way do it some times and not all the time he may not cheat just open up and ask what he likes and try to fill those needs and he probly will not cheat the best part about a newer relationship is disovering each other

Answer 7

Well my love, if a man goes out with a woman that doesn't like what he likes. He will cheat on her any chance he gets. Because a man will always make sure the woman he's with will do the things he wants to do especially when having sex. SO hypthetically I would love to meet you and show you how it's done.

Answer 8

if its hypothectical why ask? of course we think about the sexual relationships we have had in the past, just like women do too. if you were with a guy that like to go down on you and then got a new guy that didnt like to do that, would you want to stay with him? sex is part of the relationship, but its not the whole thing. there are things you get used to doing even if you dont wanna do it to keep the relationship happy. its when the other person isnt willing to do those things that they dont wanna do but you are willing to do for them that it becomes a problem.

Answer 9

Why would you not give a BJ? i wouldn't say he would cheat, but he may think about the past experiences he has had. I don't understand why you wouldn't try the oral though or anything else for that matter.

Answer 10

A relationship doesn't just amount to sex in my mind. Sex is a bonus in my opinion. I need more when it comes to being with someone. I don't relive the past nor live in it.