I have been married for 2 yrs and we have a daughter is is 3 years old. The other night i was looking for something on my computer and found a conversation my husband had had with a young girl, whom I don't get along with. In the conversation, he told her that he needed to "cut me loose and make arrangements for our daughter" later on in the message he asked this girl to hook him up with some of her friends so he can "ditch this wife" of his. I immediately confronted him about it and he said that it was a mistake that i read it and later he said it was a mistake he had written. I'm very lost in what to do about this. He seems very apologetic right now and doesn't want to talk about arrangments for our daughter. Im originally from the states, he is from Canada. We currentlly live in Canada. Please some advice.... Thanks in advance..
2007-04-26 04:57:47 · 10 answers · asked by ccast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is written in the Hebrew Talmud, the book
where all of the sayings and preaching of
Rabbis are conserved over time.
It says: "Be very careful if you make a woman
cry, because God counts her tears. The woman
came out of a man's rib. Not from his feet to be
walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but
from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be
protected, and next to the heart to be loved."
2007-04-26 05:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A mistake? How do you mistakenly say those things? I'm not saying that there is no hope for your marriage, but he was obviously trying to start an affair or something. You have to decide what is best for you. Do you love him? Can you trust him, or better yet what will he need to do in order for you to trust him? Just some things to think about.
How has your marriage been? Have there been problems or did you think everything was fine?
2007-04-26 12:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to go back to the states and take your daughter with you. Why should HE be making arrangements for her? You have rights too! if he tries anything funny go to a lawyer asap!. He may be sorry that he wrote those things, but the fact still remains that he DID write it.. now you MUST protect yourself. ALONG with trying to work on your marriage and trying to keep it together. Try to block her emails from the account all together! put her email on the Spam list , then they go to the trash when she tries to email him( for now anyway)
Please keep all paperwork with your name and SS and personal info on it in a good place that only you know about and don't write anything in emails that you won't want him to read, ( friends become enemies real quick in divorces. I hope you two can work things out but you must look out for #1 (you) and your child..
2007-04-26 12:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe I would not sit back and take this lightly. Get a copy of this conversation. Make sure you keep it put up. If I were you I would be keeping and eye on him. Any signs of cheating or anything else I do believe I would file for a legal separation and custody of your child. Do not give him the chance to do it over you. I would not want my ex to have my children.
2007-04-26 12:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you two have a fight that may have caused him to vent in appropriately to another woman?
If you don't know what to do right now, that's okay. It doesn't sound like you have to make any decisions right at the moment so don't force yourself into making one. How about just treat your husband respectfully and politely until your emotions calm down and you are ready to address what it is you think you should do. Don't rush it. You are hurt and usually when we are hurt and angry, we make the wrong decision.
2007-04-26 12:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Print the messages and visit with an attorney. You can make arrangements just as good as he can. Don't forget that alimony can also be spelled allhismoney, too.
2007-04-26 12:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get legal advice and go to a marriage counselling; this is very fishy. Why would he write such a thing if he didn't think about it?
2007-04-26 12:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your daughter and go back to the states, what a loser and you know he meant it at the time and is only sorry because he got caught.
2007-04-26 12:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
move on, you can't trust him again, and can't you see he's trying to hook up with someone else meaning he's cheating on you and God know he could leave you for someone else , i say teach him a lesson he can never forgive and also take your daughter with you
2007-04-26 12:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope you saved the message somewhere. You can use when you get your divorce.
2007-04-26 12:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋