When people say they are christian and want to marry another christian, would you marry any other person who says they are christian or would you want them to be of the same denomination? I have seen marriages where both persons never attend the same church. And some marriages where the religious difference is the main cause of friction and conflict so that couple never speaks of church. I think it would be more sensible for Baptist to marry Baptist, Catholic marry Catholic, Jewish to marry Jewish, etc.. When mixing different faiths there can be some confusion to the children of the family or to the people themselves later on.
2007-04-26 04:16:37 · 39 answers · asked by Housecat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
does not matter for me...however, others may be very strongly on it...i am open to experiencing other faiths...
2007-04-26 04:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are both on our 2nd marriage.
We both married other people the first time that were of a different faith. Neither marriage worked out - for either of us.
I come from a long line of religious Orthodox Jews, and my husband comes from a reformed family. He has become much more observant in the 8 yrs of our marriage. Our daughter attends a private Torah Academy.
I've seen too many problems with mixed marriages (of faith) where the child gets very confused and is not sure what or who to believe in.
Again - this is MY PERSONAL opinion. To each his own, and each should make up their own mind...but it's nice to vent here.
Have a good day - and good luck in your quest.
2007-05-04 03:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a matter of preference, I would prefer someone of my own faith. I think it would help avoid some of the issues you brought up. And furthermore, although I am not particularly devout, I do believe in the basic tenets of my faith, and so would want to be with someone who was on the same track, because to me, that would mean they would experience the same afterlife as me.
However, when it come to matters of the heart, people are not always attracted to the person who would make the easiest life partner, often quite the opposite. So if I ended up with someone of a different faith, it would just be something that would have to be discussed and worked out.
And the children would have to be reared in my faith, or I would not be willing to marry the person.
2007-05-04 02:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by jajdinde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would prefer the same or very similar faith....as long as they believe Christ died and rose for our sins and that we must ask him into our heart to be saved it does not matter whether the actual act of worshipping is different....such as catholic and a baptist....of course it is easier if both share the same beliefs but as long as the most important beliefs are the same I feel it could be worked around....
Now a catholic or bapitst and an atheist---NO
or with a Jewish ....not real sure...it would be a tough call...but for me I think it would be a big barrier cause the beliefs are so different ...same with Jehova's witness
that is just how I feel though
2007-05-03 14:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by Angel girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters at all unless there are children. Then the grandparents and the relatives, more than anyone else, put pressure on the parents to raise the child in THEIR faith. Then, even though they have reasonably tolerated the mate of the the other faith, they suddenly find it intolerable to see their grandchild, nephew, or whatever, raised in the other faith. It never fails, it's always obnoxious and it is the single most important reason not to marry outside your faith. By the way, about that time, the spouse also starts pressuring the other to convert!
2007-05-03 03:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the ideal situation is to marry within your faith, but your heart doesn't choose whom to love, it loves who it loves. If the love is strong enough and true then the problems can be worked out. A lot of married couple of different faiths teach the children about both religions and later in life they will choose the right one for them. I am a christian and engaged to a muslim and we have already talked about the fact that neither of us will change our religions and for that matter would never even consider asking such a thing. Differences in religion is only one of the "problems" a couple may have to face and is no different than any other marital problem.
2007-04-26 04:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It good to married someone of the same faith. I married someone of the Protestant faith a Lutheran and I'm Roman Catholic. My husband Doug convert to my faith in case we had children. We got married in the Roman Catholic Church, on August 23,1969. We were never blessed with children.
2007-05-03 06:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by TAMPABAYLADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is better when two people share the same belief system, whether that is organized religion or simply a spiritual non-denominational outlook on life.
Whenever I have seen couples where one person tries to dominate the other's belief system, I watch both people become depressed.
Clearly, you are a person who should marry someone who understands and loves your belief system as much as you do. You, your spouse and your children will be much happier in the long run.
Peace.
2007-05-04 02:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was raised a southern baptist and my husband in a church of christ and we always butt heads when it comes to religious matters. We don't necessarily fight about it constantly because he has sort of backslidden I guess, but it is hard to get him to go to church with me. We have a friend though who is a catholic and married a episcopalian and the argue all of the time. I guess it would just depend upon the marriage.
2007-05-02 11:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by BamaBelle810 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am Jewish and my husband is Catholic. We raise our children in both faiths. (shame and guilt) lol
We celebrate all holidays and go to temple on Wednesday and Mass on Sunday. Their is no confusion but there is a whole lot of understanding and communication. This is how I was raised and how i choose to still live. It works for me and I have faith. Where religion divides faith unites. When our boys are ready to make a choice they will have our full support in their choice.
2007-05-03 13:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by flateach33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, this is a good one....
My mom's family is protestant, my dad's family is catholic...
I shrugged off organized religion years ago, but I do believe in God.
I married a man who was raised moderately catholic (not over the top) it isn't an issue between us. We have three sons (triplets) togetner, and he's agreed not to force feed them anything other than the ten commandments, which are rules civilized human beings need to live by
2007-04-26 07:38:08 · answer #11 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋