My husband and I have been having major problems lately. This most recent one is my fault, although his reaction to it has been way over the top. I lied to him about some money that I invested in a catering company. I knew he would not be 100% behind it, and so I did not tell him. It was a big mistake on my part. Now he does not trust anything I say. However, he began to call me names in front of our daughter, and threatening to take her away from me. He has a severe drug and alcohol problem, and I think he was needing a fix. He was slamming doors, and using profane language. All in front of our 3 year old. He completely lost his mind! Now, the next day, he is still harrassing me about it. I told him I was sorry, and told him he could handle all of the finances, since he does not trust me, he doesn't think that is good enough. His behavior in the house has become so hostile, that I am worried about how it is affecting our daughter. I asked him to move, and he refuses. help!
2007-04-26 04:08:20 · 15 answers · asked by ACE Tx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a restraining order against him and when he comes home call the police.
2007-04-26 04:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really has an alcohol and drug problem like you say then their would be no way the courts would give him custody of your child..I would suggest calling the cops or getting a restraining order.....You do not need drugs and alcohol around the little one...And he certainly needs to stop fighting with you in front of the girl, this is not right and your daughter will pick up on these things.....
Get a restraining order and tell him if he doesn't straighten out you two will be out of his life, make him get help!
2007-04-26 05:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior is out of control, especially since you know he has a drug and alcohol problem. You can either call the cops the next time you find him doing drugs in your home, and get him arrested for that, or call them when he starts throwing his fits. But for a better solution, you should move out with your daughter, before something really serious happens.
2007-04-26 04:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant force the guy out of his home its his place as well as it is yours . There are so many people with drug addictions today its out of control I suggest contacting the president and have an all out war on drugs instead of another country we should fix our own home before fixing our neighbors . The man has a problem where is the love if you call the police on him unless hes physically abusing you . You may consider going yourself
2007-04-26 04:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT IN THE HELL ARE YOU STILL DOING THERE? YOU HAVE A CHILD! GET THE KID AND GET OUT!
Go to the cops, protect your child! What in the hell are you thinking? Of COURSE this is affecting your child!
*deep breath* sorry, about that. It just enrages me that you don't appear to actually be taking him serious enough to protect your child. You've gotta do something about that. That is your child!
Do 3 year olds have sleepovers? Maybe she should spend the weekend at grandma's or something and you two sort this out like adults if you feel he is not a danger to you. Which I think he is. In which case you should get out now. If he comes after you in any way, GET TO THE COPS. This is serious.
Best wishes and hope you and your daughter are safe.
2007-04-26 04:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not only apologize about it, but do something to make him see you did what you did cause you had a good reason to do it, first.
Then you can talk about him moving out, and in between, don't pay any attention to the things he does and be very close to your daughter. If he still refuses, ask for professional help.
2007-04-26 04:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by SongMaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has a severe drug and alcohol problem, i dont think HE is the one that should be in charge of the finances...is you taking a chance investing in a company worse than him taking the same money to get high? i think he was just using that as an excuse - probably needing the fix, just like you said...
he sounds like he could turn violent to me, and i would get away from him...if he wont leave, perhaps you should...and take your daughter with you...let him threaten to take her all he wants...no judge in their right mind would let him....and when it comes down to it, would he even want the responsibility of taking care of someone else if he cant even take care of himself? he is just trying to scare you...dont let him...
some people are telling you to get a restraining order...i had an ex with the same problem, they wouldnt let me get one unless he actually hit me or something...i hate to tell you, but he can run his mouth all he wants...
tell him to get help, or else....if he wont get help, i would file divorce papers.
2007-04-26 04:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Cinna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to either get out yourself or change the locks. And get a restraining order--this guy is an accident waiting for a place to happen. If he gets this wild, he could easily get physically abusive. Before it happens, you need a restraining order to protect you and your daughter.
2007-04-26 04:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by cross-stitch kelly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should pack up and get your daughter out of there.
2007-04-26 04:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so why does he have to be the one to move out...take your daughter and u move out
2007-04-26 04:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋