My husband has been at his job several years,he never came home talking about women's work performance,until a few females who were slutty got hired.Every time this certain one passed he got nervous.He claimed he did'nt know her name or anything until I made up a lie,then suddenly out popped her name.I could'nt shake this feeling,so eventually I got her number and asked her point blank,she hung up the phone.Once we were at the store all employees go to,so my husband stayed in the car,well by chance she came in,suddenly out of the car comes my husband,I feel he was trying to see if I maybe was talking to her.Well I ended up with a trespassing order placed on me through his job,and I'm still left with unanswered questions.He denys everything.
2007-04-26 03:56:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He did know her name but didn't want you to know he did. So obviously he is apprehensive to answer your prodding in fear that it may appear he is interested in another woman. Because he knew what the result would be, which you proved to be true by interfering with his job, calling the woman. He has to work with these girls wether he or you likes it or not. Men want as little drama as possible, even if he did think they were attractive he would lie to keep you from over-reacting. Your unanswered questions are a result of your actions.
2007-04-26 04:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by knobs8880 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to say this to you and I hope you don't take it the wrong way. You never hunt down a woman and ask her if she is cheating with your husband if there is no proof. Now you have gotten an order keeping you from the job which if he was cheating is going to be easier now because of the situation you have put yourself in. Your husband may be attracted to this new woman but so what, he is human and all men look. Don't let anyone turn you into a stalker because this is what happened whether you want to believe it or not. IT all comes down to this, you don't trust your husband and even though he has given you reason not to trust him don't let him make you loose sight of who you are, you are being really immature and childish and acting like a crazy teenager right now. You are making her look really good right now, even though you are the victim. I say this to you because I was in a situation like this before and I made a complete fool of myself and to this day I am ashamed of my action. A lady never lets anyone knock her off her square. Confront your husband about the feelings you are having and about how you feel he is cheating with this woman an if he doesn't straighten up and clear things up then you may have to seek out counseling or even seperate for a while. Try to save your marriage but deal with your husband not with the other woman because she cannot be an issue for you or come between your husband and you unless he allows it to happen. He needs to deal with the situation and handle things better than he has. Pray about it and good luck to you but don't let anyone make you make a fool of yourself , its not becoming and you are better than that.
2007-04-26 04:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had nothing to hide, he wouldn't be acting squirrely. He stays in the car and only appears when she shows up?
Without going into length, it sounds like something is fishy is going on, especially if she hung up on you and the fact that he never talked about females at the workplace, until the sluuts were hired.
Now, with the tresspassing order, you can no longer just pop in and check on him. That's fine. Do some lunchtime recon and see if their going out to lunch together. Get a keylogger on your home computer and monitor his on line activity.
If it were me, I'd be worried.
2007-04-26 04:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if what you wrote here is all that happened between you and this woman, there is more to the story than appears. I am not familiar with a "trespassing order" that a company can place on you, but it sounds like the both of them have something to hide.
2007-04-26 04:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an eye out. Why did you get a trespassing order? Because you called her and asked her? Did you call her at work? That might have not been a good idea, but I can't see them giving you a restraining order or any kind unless you repeatedly called her. If you weren't harrassing her or stalking her at work or anything, how is that trespassing?
2007-04-26 04:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got self belief that it has greater to do with the shortcoming of activity than him cheating on you. have self belief me, maximum folk adult males are basically too lazy and too stupid to have the capacity to have a female pal on the facet while internet porn and a few toddler oil is a good distance much less of a complication! (he he he) yet rather of attempting to get your husband to do what you like, attempt to do what HE likes. adult males are seen. perhaps positioned on some thing greater revealing to mattress. Or recommend renting an XXX action picture. Or tell him approximately how some warm older lady on the food market completely hit on you and gave you her quantity. See how he reacts! base line is that if the soup tastes blan then spice it up! in any different case your husband somewhat would desire to bypass to a various eating place! (you have greater capacity than you be attentive to!)
2016-12-16 16:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have made a thorn of yourself to get a no trespassing order. You obviously don't trust him, so why are you staying with him. No matter what answers you get, they will never satisfy you, as long as they don't confirm an affair and if they do, then what? Why wait? Assume he had an affair and go from there. You are always going to think he did anyway.
2007-04-26 04:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know these women are slutty? Just because your husband may find a woman attractive doesn't mean she sees anything in him. She probably hung up on you, because she wasn't going to dignify your question with an answer. If you are feeling insecure in your relationship and your husband wont open up to you, then you two should seek counseling.
2007-04-26 04:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you 'feel' as-if he is cheating, then he probably is. Boys will be boys and perhaps they are enjoying the added office camaraderie with innocent flirtations. In turn, boosting each of their weak egos that obviously need to be stroked.
In your situation, I would continue to confront him directly with any assumptions. Since she did hang the phone up on you, she is probably sensing feelings of guilt about something that is growing between her and your hubby--whether it be one-sided or mutual. Office romance is a definite, 'No No' and will end with loss of employment or worse.
Stay away from his workplace, home, etc. Should he continue to deny their relationship, then they are meant to share their misery together. Don't waste your enduring energy trying to figure out all the 'ifs, whats, whys', etc. That was in the past--live for Your future and be Happy!
Good Luck!
2007-04-26 04:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by RozPot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he probably got nervous when she walked by because he knows you are extremely paranoid. My goodness, because he knows a womans name he is cheating with her? You have stalked this poor woman for nothing more tha n being attractive and working at the same company as your husband? I would highly recommend some counseling for you
2007-04-26 04:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋