I got married few weeks ago. My wife has not move to my country yet. Even though I know I love that lady the most, I can't without her, but somehow I cant stop myself from getting involved with other girls, it's 100% sexual nothing else [no love or anything]. Is there any way, I can just sit and wait for her to move? I want to be an ideal husband with no wish to see any other lady than my wife.
I sometimes feel I am a bit#h person, but honest to God I dont want to cheat on my wife, I want to live with her forever till death.....Help me please!!
2007-04-26 03:49:02 · 32 answers · asked by Knowledge Seeker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
think about what it would do to u if u found out she cheated on you. I was cheated on by my bf- and I'll tell you- it is the most gut-wrenching- heart splitting- make u vomit- go crazy insane mad-turns ur life upside down-painful feeling in the world that I've felt and it NEVER leaves. I will NEVER forget the cheating and dishonesty. When she finds out- she will never forget either. It damages you. It kills a part of u on the inside, being cheated on. It’s really a very heartless and selfish act to do. I'd rather be dragged down the street by a truck then be cheated on. (And the pun there is I was dragged by a truck on my face as a child (luckily didn't get lifelong noticeable scars)) Clearly you love that woman enough to marry her- now would you like to put her in that type of pain? How would it make you feel to stand there and look at her in that pain knowing that you were the cause of it? Really...Marriage is supposed to be a commitment and is built on trust and honesty. There are already 3 strikes against u- u haven't fully committed to her, its clear u cannot be trusted and i presume she knows nothing about ur flings. Have a conscious!! U love her, but u r doing her wrong- btw how do u guys rationalize that its ok to screw someone else when u “Love” ur gf/wife? I mean really??? I cannot see how anyone could think its ok for them to do that…. its just me but i don't think u deserve a wife if that's how u going to do her. She should divorce you.
the truth hurts- but sometimes it can be used to "wake" someone. i hope my miniscule opinion helps you to "wake up". This world needs people have morals again. It’s just way too easy to be evil nowadays. it takes a strong person to be righteous or moral. Are u strong enough? Prove it!
u wrote: "I want to be an ideal husband with no wish to see any other lady than my wife."- if u want to be that- then SIMPLE BE THAT!. Throw aways all ur phone numbers- tell ur whores that ur growing up and don't talk to them anymore. words are easy- but i don't believe words anymore, thank the cheating ways of BF for that, i only believe actions. SHOW her with ur actions u r the ideal husband. BE the ideal husband or she will find another man to be it for her...
I honestly wish you good luck on ur undertaking, it sounds that you are at least willing to try and be a good person.
2007-04-26 04:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by KittyKatKarin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you? very simple there no such thing as 100% sex only. Most men do not end up looking for an affair without feelings. And if you really love the woman that you marry why didn't you just stay with her till she can go home with you?
If you think your having a problem because your craving on sex, what would you do and think if your wife did the same? Do you think it will be fair to her that you love her but you want sex from other women?? Just think about it,cause if you go forward on this and she finds out,your life will be a leaving hell, not just for you but worst to her....
2007-04-26 04:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you're doing against your wife, stop now. I'm sure that you're sorry, and if you could turn back the clock then you would, but the fact is you can't. What's done is done, but if you want to grow old with your wife then you must stop cheating on her now, whether it's a booming love for someone else or just sex, it's still cheating, and it's wrong. I'm sure you're better than that. if you carry on, then someone will find out sooner or later. You're better off assuming it's sooner and quit while you're safe. Good luck!
2007-04-26 03:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mr X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where there's a will there's a way.....change your habits....if you're going out to clubs or bars where you meet girls, then go somewhere else...take the temptation away! Rent movies...read books....go shopping for your WIFE...write her a letter, talk to her on the computer....sleep....go fishing, hunting...(probably won't find any girls there)...just find something to do INSTEAD of going where you would go to find girls.
You may also need to make a new group of friends.....start hanging out with married people, not singles....you need friends of "accountability" that will help encourage you and keep you on the right path!
If you are serious about what you said, then you can do this....but like any other addiction, you have to change your behavior!
2007-04-26 03:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really do love your wife and want to spend your life with her, you wouldn't be having thoughts of screwing other women. It sounds to me like you rushed into marriage with someone you felt strongly about, but weren't truly ready for the commitment. I don't know what to tell you. You should have held off on marriage and gotten all that testosterone out of your system before sealing the deal with this woman. Now you're going to constantly think about cheating and wanting to go down on other women, and when you have sex with your wife all the time, you won't be satisfied because you're used to sex being "a different story" each time. In the end, if you continue to cheat and stay with this woman, you're going to end up hurting her. That doesn't sound like love to me =/
2007-04-26 03:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it! Is it worth loosing the one you love the most? Or did you really love her at all? All you need to do is just stop! No one can make us do something that we have already placed in our heart to do. To be honest with God, is to confess to her and go from there. The bible tells us to confess our faults one to another that we may be healed. You may loose her or she might stay, but either way you must confess. Sex was created for a man and his wife - outside of that it is unclean and you make your marriage unclean.
But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
God bless
2007-04-26 04:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Gloria D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what love is. It means respect when the other is not around. It is loyalty,commitment,sacrifice! You need to be able to make sacrifices for her. Staying away from girls is obviously a sacrifice for you. Do it for her if you really love that woman you will find the strengh othewise no, you are not and never were in love.
2007-04-26 03:57:52 · answer #7 · answered by tedk3240 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dude....u really love ur wife...an im happy coz u shared ur prob honestly...........well if u sincerely love her then avoid seeing other gals..an if ever u have aconversation with other ladies....tell them that u love ur wife like hell....they will feel a lil jealous an move away...an they will start avoiding u......an wen ever u have gals round.....jus think of ur wife an how much u love her...an leave eveythg an give her a call ......an ask ur wife to keep giving u misscalls every 20 mins an messages on mobile 2.....so that ur busy reading them..an ur mind is not diverted anywhere else........an if talking to other gals gives u pleasure then consider it as a graver sin on ur part..........think that ur doing somethg wrong.........so in that way ..ull be wholly devoted towards her...njoy ahappy life .
2007-04-26 03:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by dolly khader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so wrong and what are you going to tell her when you give her an STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease)! Because it is bound to happen if you keep doing what your doing. And on top of that you are married and you say you love her that should be enough right there to make to stop and not do this to her.
2007-04-26 05:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by tika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your a so called sexaholic. Someone who needs that connection to feel whole. You should probably speak to someone about your feelings and try to get the help you desire before you end up hurting this other person you've involved in your life. She doesn't deserve to be hurt by this.
2007-04-26 03:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋