I have been married for a long time - and my husband and I are thinking about spicing up our sex with a third person. Any one out there been through this? Is it possible to add a third person and still be able to have a good relationsip afterwards with your spouse?
2007-04-26 03:47:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A threesome will not give you the Spice you need. If you think about a threesome as a way to spice things up, what happens when you get bored again ...a foursome??
Bringing in a third person is not a good idea. Women tend to regard sex as an expression of emotional intimacy, the third person, .if a women would also have some emotional intimacy attached.
In addition there will always be the issue of did you enjoy the other person more than your spouse. People have obsessed about this long after the occasion occurred.
Do not do this, this is a bell that can not be un-rung. It could surface much more than a sexual good-time, and bring some new emotional issues you had no idea would surface.
2007-04-26 04:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by lori s 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never been involved in a threesome and never will. Alot of people say, yes so long as there are rules that all must abide by....so, how do you know if you or your partner or even the third person, won't break a few or all of the rules?!
I think you're asking for alot of heartache and ruin if you invite someone else into your bedroom. Sex is more than just an act, it's emotional, it's extremely intimate (that's how I see it). The fantasy might seem exciting but, reality would be nothing at all like the pictures in your head.
2007-04-26 04:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been the third never the spouse. Probably a bad idea. You are bored to the point of thinking having someone else will make things livelier. What happens if you get a man with a bigger one or a girl with a better body or more oral skills. You start talking dirty asking for it from another man, you want to hear that repeated over an angry breakfast. Most couples don't handle it. There are other things that can make things hotter. With the exception of Kortnei this is usually bad in the long run
2007-04-26 04:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by wonder Aloud 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are both open and honest, both interested, discuss what is allowable and what is not, stick to the rules. Then yes it can be a great ex[perience. The only real suggestion I would give is to try and find the third person online (there are many sites). I would be very leery of bringing in a friend. We have been involved in swinging for over 5 yrs.
swinglifestyle.com
swappernet.com
adultfriendfinders
2007-04-26 03:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I have been active in alternative lifestyles for about 4 years now. It is possible to involve other people in your sex life as long as you can differentiate love and sex. You must set boundaries and NEVER cross them. The extra curricular activities can never come in between the two of you. If your sex life is slow and you are not spending alot of time together-DO NOT involve someone else at that time. As long as you have an open mind and are secure in your relationship, you can have fun with things like this. Check out sls.com
2007-04-26 03:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by rebel g 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes; however, u must lay down some ground rules that cannot be broken and will be adhered to by all...
And obviously EVERYONE INVOLVED needs to acquire an aids test and std testing FIRST before the involvement
and (this really goes without saying) one must be very very confident in their relationship BEFORE embarking on this episode
2007-04-26 03:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea but like someone else said rules this does not mean he can have sex with other women else your there and you cant have sex with other men unless hes there also yall have to have amazing trust with each other you cant be thinking is he cheating on me lots of trust its fun to do these things but trust is the key
2007-04-26 04:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought about it but its just not for me theres other ways to get spicy if you do decide to do it make sure your relationship is strong and make sure it is someone that you dont know too well but you trust enough which is the hard part of it because you dont want that thrid to be hanging around
2007-04-26 06:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Honey Badger Doesnt give a Shat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work... But my experience has known it can shatter relationships. The curiosity in us all wants to know what it's like with "how the other half live"...
If your relationship with each other is rock solid..... then it's about to be tested.
2007-04-26 03:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by 9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i haven't had one but i know people who have and they thought they would be okay with it but they weren't. it's about whether or not you can actually deal with seeing your husband have sex with someone else. even though you'd participate he's with someone else too. i couldn't handle that. its really up to you whether or not you could handle that
2007-04-26 03:54:49 · answer #10 · answered by JM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋