That the first year of marriage is the worst?
2007-04-26 03:44:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For me it was!!!
Now 2years later everything is SO much better.
I guess the first year you are still resistant in realizing that your life has changed for good and that now you are part of a family, not alone.
2007-04-26 03:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sort of. The first year of my marriage wasn't that bad on an emotional level. We got along really good, we just had to learn how to live in each others space. As far as the commitment in marriage the first year shouldn't be too bad. You are in the honeymoon stage.
By reading your other questions, it would seem something is up with him that isn't normal. Either he's rethinking the whole marriage thing, has a girlfriend on the side, or he's in a really bad mood. You have to talk to him and if he won't talk, then you have a break down in communication and there's real trouble ahead for your marriage. For him to all of the sudden shut off from you and he's on the phone a lot to other people, sounds like he's trying to avoid you for some reason.
2007-04-26 10:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you havent lived together, yes the first year is an adjustment period. I also think that if you havent dated for a while it can cause some stress too, BUT i think everyones experience is personal. If you get it in your head that the first year is bad, then yes it will be. Marriage takes a lot more than love, it takes hard work and commitment. And sometimes you each will need space and sometimes you wont. My advise is to never stop learning something about your partner. If you do,thats when your relationship can get difficult. If you continually learn, it helps you understand how they tick.
2007-04-26 12:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by mikejustine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope not! we just got engaged, but we have lived together for a year now so we already know each other inside and out, I don't see marriage doing anything but strengthening our relationship. (I know statistics say living together first increases the probability of divorce-but that really makes no sense to me)
I've seen others struggle through their first year immensly, but i think it is because they 'rush' into having children or other factors. Definitly not planning children until married atleast 2 yrs, I think it's imporant to have a stable marriage and travel and enjoy the first few years with you and your spouse until you add someone else into the mix
2007-04-26 10:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on if you are adventurous or not. The first year you are still newly weds so that is great but on the other hand you have to get use to the other persons quirks. you will have things that you don't like but so will he. It's about how you face those things abd how you work on them together as one. I would say the first year is tough but fun. Not as tough as the upcoming 7 years. Normally this is when people start having kids. it changes a lot of things.
2007-04-26 10:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. To me, the 2nd year was by far the worse. The first year, you are still learning about each other and enjoying the high of just getting married. The 2nd year, the 'honeymoon' phase wears off and that's when life really starts to kick in. It gets better though with time, patience, and a LOT of compromise, and you start to get used to each other.
2007-04-26 10:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by dixie chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. every marriage is different.. just as every person is different. It is not necessary for you to go through a rough first year, or any rough year for that matter.
I believe that your first 5-7 years help determine the outcome for the rest of your marriage though.
2007-04-26 10:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by michaeljazz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don' t think that its necessarily worse, its just an adjustment period. A marriage is like a bank account... you can't keep withdrawling without first putting something positive into it. I hope it works out well for you.
2007-04-26 10:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by mamaladybok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say if most couples can survive the first 5yrs. their odds of lasting increase dramatically. Just keep in mind what the fights are about (usually money probs). So as to not attack each other in vain realize what the fight is really about and team up to resolve the issue.
2007-04-26 10:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by shaman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yepper true....each of you are tring to compromise and learn how the other does things....try living together for a year first...to determine if you really want to marry this guy after learning all his faults
2007-04-26 10:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋