Am I racist towards my own race?

Question

I am mixed, Chinese/Lao/French/Indian, but more than 2/3rds of me is Asian...I am wondering if I am racist towards Asians because I have lots of friends, but only 2-3 are Oriental....never dated an Oriental girl...I just don't find them attractive; but I do love brown girls.

I am 25, left Laos (small country next to Thailand) when I was 2, came to Canada...I've always been the odd one sticking out as there aren't too many Orientals in my area, nor were there in university...am I racist or a product of my environment? Anyways, I am going back to China and Laos in a month to retrace my roots....would that do anything or do I not have a problem?

I guess I've been very assimulated into Canadian culture; I can still speak Mandarin, Lao, and I understand Thai and Cantonese....

I am Catholic if that makes a difference....

Answer 1

You don't have to be around anyone you don't want to be around. No one expects you to be everyone's friend. You're more open and not restricting yourself to what others might think you should do. You are your own person, and that is what's right! You don't have to date anyone just because of their family origin or whatever, date who you enjoy being with, fall in love with, it's your life, no one else can tell you what to do. The racist is one who is belligerent and deliberately attacks people whom they do not like. The violence and derogatory remarks are what make them racist. You are not a racist, you are a fine human being.

Answer 2

I suppose ur just influenced with ur surrounding and the people ur living with thats a natural thing to happen but since u are going to china o trace ur roots shows that ur strongly thinking about ur culture and about ur race. I thinking dating a oriental girl is not a must if u had found the right girl u sure wud have dated her maybe u didn't find the right oriental girl no big deal. It's not a rule that since ur from china u have to date a girl from china etc etc it's not so if u think that girl is good enuf for u go for her not thinking much of the racial orientation.

I think when u go to china u'd understand that u were brought up in a different environment not ur fault buddy it's natural accept where u r living and where u plan to spend ur whole life and then be comfortable with wat u find good about both the cultures incorporate the good things in ur life and live happily.

Answer 3

You don't have a problem, you just haven't been immersed into Asian culture, it sounds like. I'm half Korean and half white, but didn't experience as much Korean culture as most Koreans. Also, I had few Korean friends. I felt much more in touch with the white side of my culture.

However, when I went to school, I began developing a community with fellow Asians (Koreans, Chinese, Japanese, Filipinos, Vietnamese). I became much more in touch with my Korean culture...and in fact, I'm not married to another Korean-American. But at heart, I'm still a banana.

Just enjoy your unique blend of cultures. Research and get to know the cultures of your racial background. You probably won't metamorphasize on your trip (nor probably should you), but you'll be able to feel that you're a little more in touch with some of your background. I felt that way in my first trip to Korea, which I went on this year.

Answer 4

As long as your nice to everyone your not racist at all.

Answer 5

Just treat everyone with respect regardless of color and you will be fine.

Answer 6

As long as you don't hate your culture.

Answer 7

You are a mixed-up kid, cooked from a melting pot, and you have a problem. Go find your roots and rediscover and reengineer yourself. Good luck.

Answer 8

Yes...so what.