down in the dumps cause of no friends?

Question

Im feeling down at the moment. I am 23and am lucky if i get ot go out on a night out once every month! Ive only got one friend and to be honest with u she isnt the nicest of people quite negative to be round yet i go out with her to have someone round. i havent got a clue what ot join or anything and am feeling quite lonely

Answer 1

do you work, if not find a job and make some new friends, i started a new job six weeks ago and ive made great friends and were all going out next week!, get a hobby, if you have a small child go to a mum and toddler group, smile more, try and be more friendly, where are you from, i could be your friend!

Answer 2

Think about things you enjoy. If you like reading, go to a local bookstore and see if they have book clubs where everyone reads a book then gets together to discuss it. If you like animals, volunteer at an animal shelter. If you like music, get a part time job at a music store. The key is to find something YOU like and put yourself into that element. Once you are there, you'll be around people who enjoy the same things you do, and you automatically have something in common and this can be a conversation starter. If things go well, you can always ask the person if they want to get together for coffee or lunch. If that goes well, see where the friendship can lead as far as going out to do other things you both enjoy. Don't surround yourself with negative people, they will only bring misery to your life. Trust me, you're better off alone then with a friend who isn't nice or who isn't truly your friend.

Although meeting people online can be dangerous and you really need to use alot of common sense about it, why not join a website like myspace or something, find other women in your area, develop some online friendships, then once you're comfortable, maybe suggest getting together. (Something safe, like coffee during the day or lunch...definitely somewhere public).

Keep your options open, be creative, and stay positive. I wish you lots of luck!!!

Answer 3

How about joining a gym or start exercise classes? I've moved recently and don't really know anyone so am going to try that. You don't mention how old you are - are you working? Are there people at work you could mix with more? Do you have a hobby or special interest - or something you've always wanted to do as it would be good to get involved in something you enjoy? How about becoming a volunteer (you can register with agencies online if you search you should be able to find something in your local area). Good luck and keep your chin up - if she's not that great a friend anyway you certainly need to make more...

Answer 4

I was in the same situation than you. Just bit different because I never get out, I'm home 24/7 with my baby. The only person I get to see is my husband. I also had a very negative friend, but not seeing her anymore. I joined one of the Yahoo Groups to be honest. Now I have a lot of friends, yes I still don't get out, but I enjoy talking to them every day! That will be a good start for you! Hope you find a group you like!

Answer 5

Hi joanne,
Don't be down there is a time in all of our lives when we dont have many friends around and it feels very lonely your right but you must stay positive. When you least expect it you might start a new job or someone will talk to your negative friend and you will find you have alot in common and start being friends. It always works like that. In the meantime continue to go out with your friend but try to be confident enough to talk to other people build it like that. Good luck

Answer 6

Chin up girl, it's not always like this. But your right you should join or take up an interest, think about what you would like to do most like- join a gym, go swimming maybe even go bingo (its not just for old people)can be a laugh and give you the chance to make new friends. I do understand how you feel, from time to time i feel lonely as my mates seem to all wait for me to do the phoning and arranging to see them it does my head in coz i think if they really wanted to see me and spend time they would get hold of me! now and again they do but usually when they have nothing to do, so even having friends can still leave ya feeling lonely! shame i don't no ya I'm always wanting to make new friends, come and join me on 360 add me to your contacts then we can have a good chat xx =)

Answer 7

i am also 23 and I'm gonna give you some advice that others may not approve of!! You said yourself that this girl that you pal around with isn't that nice but regardless of this you need to make use of her! Use your occasional nights out with her as a tool for meeting new and improved friends!Have her there as a backup but have the confidence to put yourself out there and talk to people while youre out. Don't let her put you down, you sound like a total sweetie who should have no problem making friends if you allow yourself to be more sociable!Good luck pet and be confident!

Answer 8

Definitely a good idea to join something. Try an evening class maybe, that would get you out once a week at least. Or join a darts or pool team at your local, they're often very sociable people to be around.

Answer 9

Hi Joanne. This must be bout your 100th question along similar lines. Have you not taken up any of the advice offered? I feel you worry too much about being popular and wanting people to like you. You have to just chill out man! No one likes someone who tries to hard. It seems like your not happy with your job and certain work colleagues. Once they think your a melt, I'm afraid it's gonna be hard to build up your character with them. Have you not thought about getting a different job? Don't lose heart. I was totally insecure when i was your age. I'm now a lot older and wiser, more at ease with myself and have some very dear friends. Relax and be yourself.

Answer 10

you could join the gym and get talking to some people? go swimming?
are there work mates you could go out for a drink with after work? if not start a new job and make friends there if possible
if not you could always go on the internet and get chatting to people in your area?
dont worry
hope things get better :-)