Just few corrections here to make it perfectly factual
And now she is really pissed because she read the worst things unimaginable, but all this stuff was just a craze of writing and had nothing to do with my realities or thoughts, in spare time, and put off the steam of some bad days, but included no cyber, I acted as various people, and never r the reality of me as a mature man, or never had a wish to meet, to cyber, or to call -100% fiction and mind games with weirdo’s on the chat rooms, then on emails, stupid YES, awful yes, will do again...NO, most definitely not (for good) she really is taking it so hard and thinks it is over with our marriage ..Do you think I (we) deserve that, and we will loose our love & life? As I worship her?????
2007-04-26 00:43:16 · 8 answers · asked by mature_egyptian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God gave you two heads! Your not thinking with the right one! SHAME ON YOU!
2007-04-26 02:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I am somewhat confused. By looking back at your questions are you the husband or the wife? The first question was should I leave my husband then the next two are written from a husbands perspective??
Regardless, I think that if what was done was more a "creative writing" exercise and only imaginary then it should be left as just that and nothing else.
I have known many authors and they all do this, sometimes for inspiration for new books and sometimes just to get silly ideas out of their heads so that new ideas can have room.
I recently met David Eddings and he was one of the most interesting gentlemen I have talked to in quite some time but it was so clear just in our very short conversation that he had a billion and one ideas racing through his mind at any one moment. I could clearly imagine him doing something like that as well as having a ton of stuff from the past decade that may be trash or new ideas brought back to life later on when it makes more sense for a new book.
If there was more involved then that is another story.
If you love your wife and mean what you say then what ever you do don't keep secrets from her. If you have new information that you "just write down" then share it with her. Perhaps you will have some amazing discussions or she will more clearly understand what is going on in your head.
If you are the wife and you love your husband and trust him as well as have no true reason to mistrust him then just listen and talk to him. Maybe we could all learn something from this and vent some frustrations just by putting pen to paper (hypothetically).
2007-04-26 07:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me cheating is cheating!! You say you were just playing mind games it was not you? I think you can cheat emotionally, it sounds like all the crap you said in cyber space was a cheating game that you got caught at. You have got a lot of work to do to save your marriage! Your wife will never think of you as she did b-4 this. Beleive me years ago I had an exp. with my husband close to what you did. Yes we are still together, but I have a hard time trusting him. And it has changed our relationship, love is still there but the respect I had for him is a lot less then it was b-4. All I can tell you is good luck!
2007-04-26 08:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by jim/kate m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You worship her so much that you have to check out of reality to become some lewd, infantile perv?
Where was she in your thought process whilst you 'indulged' / 'vented' your futilness?
Where was she when you thought it would be fun to send up the other lonely saddoes that no doubt you engaged with?
Please - had you stood up and admitted that there is something lacking - where is for you to decide - then maybe she could have considered working things out.
But you just dismiss it as 'had nothing else to do' - put yourself in her shoes?
Do you feel good if you did?
And WHY in Gods name did you keep them?
This is not a simple as you are trying to make everyone - including yourself - believe.
Fess up and start talking to her in an ADULT fashion.
Do not treat her like a fool - she is a lot more savvy then you think from what you say.
I wish you luck - but I think you need a good dose of honesty to go with it.
2007-04-26 07:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by isobellistowel 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
the problem lies in you. why keep on emailing and receiving from those people out there esp from women? what if, if its the reverse, say your wife is doing it and you dont like it? you are defending yourself that its not in reality but just for "fond" sparing your time with them. just put yourself in her shoes if she does it too. would it be just OK for you??? i doubt a big NO.
it happened to my ex-fiance before, promising to marry me but he promised to marry another woman also over the net which i found it on his computer. in the end, we broke up.
so if you value your marriage, love, and your life with your wife, put this crazy doings a stop! because on the first place, why did you get marry???
2007-04-26 08:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by ~o0o~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, that crazy nut from va tech wrote crazy stuff and no one took heed so now you see what happened.
my granny always had a saying and I believe it is in the bible,
from out of the mouth, the heart speaketh.
i dont believe a word you said telling us it is not true. you need professional help. (like most men)
2007-04-26 08:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Bubba Sparks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and her should talk you need to stay off the computer if its the problem grow up and be the man she needs
2007-04-26 08:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by keena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not do things like that online
she found out and DUH it hurt her
get rid of the computer
and act like a "man"
2007-04-26 07:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋