I'm in a relationship with girls who are really close with another each other. The two of them have loved each other from childhood. As some women do, they like to have sex with each other. Since my relationship with this girl and her friend (her friend having tagged along on many dates) have become close, my girl friend asked me if we could include her girl friend (who has become a best friend of mine) in our relationship.
This is what many a man would consider a bonus. They can go be themselves, shop and do things guys feel obligated to do, and I'm not dragged into it so much. I get to spend time with them both, in a non-platonic way, and neither of them gets mad, that they aren't getting attention. I don't feel like I'm being cheated on or anything, and every thing seems to be going good....
Except that I would like to marry these girls (both of them together, and we've talked about it). But the church and Government won't allow it. I'd like to know why the three of us can't be?
2007-04-26 00:22:53 · 6 answers · asked by Ben A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I have to say that its possible in Canada that polygamy will become legal. But it might not. Reasons it might be:
- precedent set by gay marriage. It is not illegal for any sized group of women and men to live together and have sex together, so why can't they formalize that relationship via marriage?
- there are immigrants to canada from countries where polygamy is legal. Under canadian law, the 2nd wife has no rights. It is hard to see how refusing to recognize the existing polygamous relationship protects the subsequent wives.
That's the theory. In theory I have nothing against polygamy. When you have some sexual, equal group who all have sex together and want to be a formal unit, it seems unusual to me, but hey, they are consenting adults. This is particularly true in your case where the women are bisexual, so its not just 'multiple wives' but a triangle where all parties are connected. That's the theory - and the example in this case.
In practice, most polygamous marriages involve just-legal rural girls who've grown up in a secluded area dominated by one church who are married off to a much older man they don't love, and they consent because they believe they would be outcast from the community, not to mention from heaven, if they don't comply. While legally they are adults acting on their own free will, they've also been brainwashed since birth. Most canadians are not comfortable with this arrangement.
Anyway, my suggestion would be to speak to a lawyer, and see if as much as possible you can get things put in each others names, so that you at least share housing rights, etc.
2007-04-26 03:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because like it or not, this country, and most others, are heavily influenced by Christian principles. There are many cultures that allow polygamy. (Remember polygamy works both ways. Some cultures allow multiple husbands, others multiple wives.) In the U.S. polygamy has come to be associated with forced child marriage. If you and these two women are truly happy, just live together. Perhaps employ a lawyer to take care of some details. It will be a long time before you manage to change enough minds to legalize polygamy.
2007-04-26 01:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by rosekm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what is the problem? if all the three of you are agreeing and why take the concern of the law?
2007-04-26 00:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a cultural thing.
2007-04-26 00:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck, move to where the Mormons are !
2007-04-26 00:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
live together
why get married???
2007-04-26 00:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋