Love is selfless act, but being a human being everybody expects something; at least to be loved. isn't it?
2007-04-26 00:11:13 · 9 answers · asked by DS 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes.. desire to be loved is the most common instincts in humans... definitely in love.
I'll reveal you a secret buddy... love is not in taking(as you yourself say that love is a selfless act.. you are near), it is in giving!
Just love the one you love, and I assure you, your expectations of love will be fulfilled. It's a guarantee.
It is possible to love without expectations then. Just remind each and everytime you want love, that the definition of love is "giving".
Expectation reduces joy, always remember this. Give space to the other person. You on your part just shower him/her with love. As love is the most powerful force on this planet, if you feel your better half is not responding, just double the dose.
Effortlessly love will flow to you.
take care
love
I am The Last Leaf
2007-04-26 00:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by I am the Last Leaf 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am assuming you are talking about love for a partner as opposed to love of a child/family member.
I believe it is not possible to SUSTAIN love with no expectations. It may not even be a conscious thing but its why people can fall out of love.
Unfortunately people dont have too much control over who they love. That's why its such a powerful emotion.
People do expect something in return but it may not be a conscious expectation. Unrequited love causes hurt, let down, loneliness and possibly bitterness. These feelings are the cause of the emotional "short changed feeling".
In extreme cases Love can turn to hate. The ultimate dark emotion. In cases of true hate ....love or past love will have some part to play in the object of real hate. Hate is directly related to love in a scary way.
When it comes to children then some people can truly love without expectation.
2007-04-26 00:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by GMonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is but it is very hard to do that. I think most people give love and at the very least want some love in return. I think loving someone without any expectations is a good way to start a relationship maybe, but then once you;re involved, we all need to at least feel a little love in return.
2007-04-26 03:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. I believe that true love is love unconditional, you are loved for who you are, nothing else. Having sex whilst in a relationship isnt something that one expects but can just happen to bring the couple even closer than before. My partner when we fell in love did not say, "im only going to love you if u do the dishes" etc. She loves me for who i am, nothing more, anything more you get is just a bonus :D hope that answered ur question
2007-04-26 00:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by richmooreuk1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. cause when you love someone so much, you dream about him/her. Ans all dreams are acts of expectations. And it is not wrong to have an expectation. In this way may be you can attract good things in your life. Positive thinking works!
2007-04-26 02:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can love without expectations but you can't be in love without expectations because to be in love the other must be in love with you the same or it isn't a real love.
2007-04-26 00:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expectations are natural.
There is nothing wrong with expectations, or with having expectations.
What we have to learn is that expectations not neccesarily become fullfilled. We must learn to let them go.
People who can't do that turn out very unhappy.
2007-04-26 00:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone, in my opinion, wants to be loved. it starts in infancy and it never stops. but the problem is sometimes when you love someone, the love isn't always returned.
2007-04-26 00:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Charmed One♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think when you love someone you always have great expectations, some work out to be fine, othertimes they don't.
2007-04-26 00:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋