it was because he felt like she would do anything he wanted sexually, he could just read people.yeah right, obv she did.he has always been one to talk dirty during sex about me being with another woman or having sex with another man he watches,found out he jerked off while i was at work the other day. come to find out these are things he really wants is he oversexed, sex addict or what?
2007-04-25 23:36:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is normal... and has a high sex drive...
are you up for all those suggestions or are you prudish??? :D
2007-04-25 23:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I don't know that I would call him perverted, many men fantasize about those things.
I would call him a jerk. He cheated, and he is blaming you. Why did he take the vows if he didn't like having sex with you, and you only? That is a bullshi* excuse. There was nothing in the vows that said you had to have sex with another woman, or allow him to watch you have sex with another man. As far as the jerk/off, that is normal and most men do it. You are not wrong, he is. Tell that jerk that the next time he wants to cheat, he had better pack his clothes and have a new place to stay. If he does it again, wait until he leaves for work, clean out the checking account, put new locks on the doors, and pack his clothes and leave them sitting by the door. Call an attorney, and file for divorce. Ask for alimony, and if you have children, child support.. The let's see if he can afford to go out and cheat then!!!
2007-04-25 23:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your husband likes to walk on the wild side a little. I wouldn't think that he is a perv necessarily - men tend to view sex differently than women. If he feels stuck in his sex life with you - as in always the same way, place, time - etc. Chances are he wants to "live a little" - if a woman comes around that acts and talks slutty - it might be just what he was in the mood for. He probablly talks about you with other people during the act of sex b/c it sounds like something crazy and wild - but if someone actually walked in he would probablly freak out. Chances are - if you know this stuff about him now, I guarantee that there is so much more that you don't know yet.
2007-04-25 23:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by abby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh so you accepted the fact that he cheated? You understand why and just want to know if he's oversexed?
Tell me your kidding! Your husband has been cheating on you for a year and your trying to find out if it's because he's oversexed?
HE'S CHEATING and that's because he does not love you!
You should know your headed for a divorce, so speed things up and file now.
Have a little control and a little class. Why would you even look at a man that is treating you with such disrespect?
2007-04-25 23:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was like, okay, I see her point until this 'found out he jerked off while i was at work the other day,' now I just think you are crazy and probably making it up that he cheated and so on.
Anyone who thinks that masturbation is something that only perverts do is not normal nor a reliable source of information on reality.
2007-04-25 23:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
The guy is not a pervet,he just has a lot of sexual energy and I think instead of trying to fight with it, use it to keep your relationship growing and to bring you closer.
I am not saying do things you are not comfortable with like threesomes and swapping partners, but flirt with him a little. Call him at work and give him phone sex.grab his penis while he is driving and rub it.He will enjoy your relationship and know that he does not have to cheat on you to get what he wants.
remember sex should not just be the routine penetration of the penis on the vagina but iit can happen anywhere anytime, even without penetration.
2007-04-26 00:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One person's sex addict/pervert is another's liberated soul. You can take the shame-based approach and label it all perversion, or you can go the "liberated" path. As long as someone is not being hurt, human (adult or child) or animal, pretty much anything goes, in my book. What adults do in the privacy of thier bedrooms or dungeons is private. As long as peple are having fun playing with their bodies, who is to judge. Can you handle it? If not, I guess you need a divorce lawyer. Good luck.
2007-04-26 00:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 08:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people have different things they consider exciting, and different things they can live with for their partners, and other things they won't do.
If you can't fit his needs into your 'acceptables' - and one possible way of doing that is to give up on monogamy, if that's 'acceptable' to you - then your marriage is doomed.
He should not have cheated, he should have told you up front what he needed, and had a frank discussion. If the outcome of that discussion was you telling him to get it elsewhere, fine.
2007-04-26 03:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband got into that and tried his best to convince me to do them...threesomes, bi parteners, swapping parteners...but I was terribly uncomfortable with the idea. He went to cheating a lot and I finally caught him and divorced him.
2007-04-25 23:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
what he wants is normal and jerking off is natural and nothing wrong with that may be you should open up try to fill some of his fantisy
2007-04-26 04:59:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋