2007-04-25 21:14:26 · 22 answers · asked by stand o u t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forgiving "stupidity" is one thing, forgetting is another. I've lived with this burden for many years and, yes it's a burden. It has reflected on our relationship and had I the choice again, I would take her first offer of leaving gracefully. This way we'd both have another chance at a better life and relationship.
Maybe there are those out there that would be able to live with this on their conscious but, it's been a terrible burden to us although it's never mentioned through the years, it's there.
And, by the way, it's happened several times, the reasons were "I couldn't help it"
2007-04-25 21:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that I would not forgive them but it is possible that I might. The problem is that I have been cheated on and I know how being cheated on makes you feel and I never want to feel like that again. Cheating is a totally selfish act. You cheat only for you I think that if you really love someone you won't want to hurt them in anyway and would not want to risk getting caught cheating.
2007-04-26 04:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by chris s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it totally depends on you but i think the person came back to u and admitted wt he did means he is honest enough or he could have gone on with it plus u can't gurantee that the other person won't do it ...u need to analyze wt made him do that and if the reason seems reasonable to you then try improving ur relationship with him so that it won't happen again or if u feel his is just finidng excuses then i would say leave him...but it depends on you if u feel u can trust him and u love him enough then give him another chance and if u can't then break it coz it won't be a strong relationship from now onwards... all the best
2007-04-26 04:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by glister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to forgive it, but u don't necessarily need to stay with them, depends on if they are remorseful, and if they realize what they did hurt u. personally i don't believe one ever forgets being cheated on, and it does affect the way u feel about them forever. the relationship just will never quite be the same as it was once u learn u have been betrayed.
2007-04-26 07:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would most diffenatly forgive them, it isnt your job to pass judgement on them, but that dosnt meen stay, forgive, and move on with your life. in your heart you will always remember how he/she hurt you, because of that you can never trust again. forgive and move forward in your life weather be a divorace or breaking just a partnership. Good luck, !
2007-04-26 04:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by close_my_eyes2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.....Marriage is not only love but it's also about trust. When someone cheats they shared something that is special and was only meant for there partner. Also when someone cheats there not thinking about there spouse and how it will effect there marriage or there relationship its only about them. Personally I don't want to be with someone like that.
2007-04-26 06:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and if I cheated I would not expect her to forgive.
2007-04-26 04:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by rjsr40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,but he never admitted to cheating so I forgave him anyway.And just put it in the lords hands to handle.Once I had forgave it was no longer my problem.
2007-04-26 07:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about forgiving them, but not forgetting what happen, and it seems to hard to trust again....
2007-04-26 04:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by emma l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive probably, but forget NEVER
2007-04-26 04:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by E.T.O. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋