If you have been in a serious relationship with a man and one of his female friends put you down and was very defensive towards you, but now your man won't tell her she was in the wrong. What would you do?
2007-04-25 18:52:57 · 14 answers · asked by Nikki 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way his response was he didn't want to lose her friendship.
2007-04-25 19:01:43 · update #1
he picked his side. you should be closer to him, if he cant stand up for you, you deserve better
2007-04-25 19:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by fippypoo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh man, that's a toughy because I would probably start a fight. First I would try reasoning with my boyfriend, but knowing guys, they're hard to reason with. =)
If that didn't work, I think it would be time for re-evaluating the relationship to see where you guys are going. If he can't stick up for you, maybe he's not the best person to be with. I think it's important for couples to be on each other's sides in most cases. You don't want a guy you can't count on, especially one who can't or won't find the balls to stick up for you when you need him to. In my book, that's a little wrong. He needs to find a backbone and be on your side if you really feel like you are right. If you do feel you are right about this, then make sure you stick up for yourself against him and try to get him to do the right thing.
2007-04-26 02:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by ~Abbey Beth~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let it go. even though it tee's ya off... let it go... The world has enough drama.. the less drama you involve yourself in the happier you will be. You man is correct in the matter the issue is between you and her... not him and her... even though you are his girl... protecting you from harm would be his business.. but not issues that are trivial. Sounds like the female friend either wants him to herself without you in the picture or are trying to hurt your feeling because it makes her feel better for her own personal issues. Love your man. Ignore her... The more you smile and keep your head up... the more it will drive her insane..she will wonder why she cant seem to tee you off and eventually notice her efforts are a lost cause. Let it go. Its not his bussiness.
2007-04-26 02:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by misspookett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, depending on how long he and I have been together and how long they have been friends, I would have different expectations. If she is a long time friend and we haven't been together so long, I would be more understanding of his not wanting to lose her friendship, but still let him know I was unhappy he didn't stand up for me. If we had been together longer than they had been friends I would read him the riot act.
2007-04-26 02:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off he needs to always be on your side your the one he loves. explain to him how this makes you feel, and that if she was truly one of his friends she would be accepting of the person he is with , also sounds to me like she is jealous of the relationship because she dont have a life of her own. if he does nothing about this then you need to reevaulate the relationship. good luck!
2007-04-30 00:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by twinkle2twinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that this is unacceptable. He is supposed to be supportive of you Tell him that if she is more important to him than you are, maybe he should be going out with her. Don't tolerate this disrespectful treatment. Leave him if he can not treat you with respect. Next time it may be something very important and he won't back you up.
2007-04-26 02:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like she is more than a friend to him and doesn't want you around anymore because she wants him and if he isn't saying anything about her behavior towards you then he must want her as well. So I would ask him about his actions and tell him how they made me feel and if it happened again then it would be over because obviously he feels more for her than you.
2007-04-26 02:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He may not want to lose her friendship, but hopefully he has lost his girlfriend!
2007-04-26 09:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey nikky call that guy to u r house and talk with him about this mess then slowly he will understand u ok
2007-04-26 01:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
quit being silly! tell her yourself. you dont owe her any explains for anything, do you? get the chick off your back. you dig?
2007-04-26 02:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by shawty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋