We been together for 10 years and got 2 kids, the last 2 years have been on and off, we are now apart 1 month.

Question

She left me because i did not let her go out with her friends on the weekends, every weekend until 2am. Were apart having fun, when im lonely i call her but shes going out when shes lonely she tries at me and im busy. Today is wednesday she said she wants to be with me on the weekend, i said why not today, she said no and goodbye. She has cheated on me in the past, but I have never caughtn her. I NEVER FOLLOW HER, today i did , she 100% denies seeing anybody else, i was a block behind her when she picked him up, i confronted them and asked her to pull over so i cound talk to her. she never stopped and i gave up? I* always told myself if i seen it in person like today that would be my last try. What s up?

Answer 1

Let her go, you've made yourself too avaliable. I'm guessing if she split with you that easy, she doesn't exactly have you playing daddy with the kids. This really splits you away from her life. If not then she is really dealing with some extreme detachment disorders that don't allow her to truly understand her own feelings about things. I'd tell you to keep it up, but with the infedility that extreme, it just shows that your guys relationship isn't exactly the most deepest, nor the most meaningful, atleast to her. You do have history with her, but what she feels about it is starting to come out in her actions. It doesn't mean it wasn't deep, just ether not deep enough, or she did everything she could to fight that and deny the feelings envolved. You can't stop her from doing this, so your sort of sol...... when the relationship begans to be ran by lies the truth becomes hidden from both parties, and when that finaly comes out it can be the end or a new beganing. Time for that a confrontation to see if your wasting your time, or if you can salvage this mess.....