Is it good to die alone or to die in front of your family and known ones?

Question

I don't want anyone to think that i am all talking about your death. just a question. If u know that u gona die in few hours or so, would u prefer to die alone with no one around u or u want lot of people around u? please don't take me wrong here. i read a book which says about whats the diff. between dieing in front of your family or known ones and dieing alone.pls forgive me if anyone got affended with this question. just want to know peoples choices.

Answer 1

If it was going to be a peaceful death where I just drifted off to a sleep that I would never wake up from, I would want to be surrounded by my family. I know that they'd want to be there when I slipped away from this life. If it was a painful death, I'd just want to die alone and not have my family see me suffer.

Answer 2

I am not offended by your question.

I actually had someone die in front of me and many others. My mom died 9 years ago from breast cancer - she was 43. She was in a hospice facility where she was a "resident" for almost 2 months - the longest they'd ever had.

It came down to the wire - or maybe I should say the moment finally arrived - it was all so weird and unscripted is the best way to describe it. Almost like a build up - anyways - when she died we were all there - my siblings, my dad, her friends, other relatives - there must have been about 35 people there.

I can honestly say that she was "happy" in the fact that she did not die alone - that we were all there with her. There was one point when she opened her eyes and scanned the room - and when her body went lifeless - man, that's the moment I remember the most - it left me feeling lonely and desperate. Her journey was over, she went out with a lot of people telling her she was loved. But for the people that have to live on after they are gone - it takes a long time for you to get over it.

SO.....I'd rather die with my family than alone - even if its painful for them to watch because no one should have to die alone.

Answer 3

Some have no choice.Some people die alone like those in accidents or sudden deaths.Some know when they are going to die and have a long illness.I would think they would prefer not to go along.I am taking care of an elderly lady in her last stage of life and she is bed ridden and on hospice care.The hospice nurse who has seen lots of patents die told us caregivers that when it comes her time to die she will not want to go until those caregivers closest to her tells her it is ok for her to go.I have heard other stories where dying people would hold on until a certian close family member was there with them before they passed on.So I guess it just depends but I would think most people would want those closest to them around like family and maybe friends.

Answer 4

I've had the experience of dying (during surgery, for about 3 min.) Long story.. i'm allergic to anaesthesia, so i've had 3 surgeries while awake, just numb from a spinal and morphine.

You lose everything that you consider "you".... your memories go, your love and hate goes.... you don't get to keep anything at all.

My experience let me know that if i get the choice, i'll be alone when i die. My family can cry at the funeral.

It's difficult enough just to die. It would just be that much harder with crying people all around.

Answer 5

If I was going to be in pain and suffering then I would want to die alone. I know that may sound selfish but I wouldn't want me being in pain to be the last memory my loved ones had of me. If I was not going to suffer then I would want to die in the comfort of my own home surrounded by loved ones.

Answer 6

My mother died in a hospital room on a Sunday afternoon last July, with only a nurse at her bedside. She was on oxygen and morphine. She was sleeping peacefully, and just drew one last breath and passed on. She'd been debilitated by cancer for the past year, and spent the last three days of her life there.

The hospital called me, and I got everyone together within an hour. My dad was on his way to a community theater production and my sister was at home with her family, planning to visit the hospital later. I don't think it really mattered that we weren't standing around, keeping vigil. I don't think she would have wanted us to.

Answer 7

i think that dying in front of your family and known ones will bring a sort of peace to them b/c they were there with you and that you didn't go throw it alone. Personally i don't care but i think my family would feel better if they were there.

Answer 8

Ask me when I'm dying.

Besides, you only left me two choices. There are so many ways to die after all.

Answer 9

I would rather neither one. Die with strangers or friends.
Twisted, right?

Answer 10

alone ! when I'm dying...bothering others is useless!