Depression and anger often go hand in hand--why don't people understand that?

Question

If a person feels utterly helpless in her life,like there is no light at the end of the tunnel,and she is very sensitive,there is a good chance that depression will develop...which often leads to irrational thinking and angry outbursts.Why don't others comprehend this and try to be more understanding and empathetic?

Answer 1

Hello again Sunshine, There are alot of people who do empathise, sympathise and understand the complexities of what it is like to be depressed. Although I must agree that there are alot of insensitive people around too. A depressed person needs to try to get to the root of why they are feeling helpless and have no light at the end of their tunnel. Changing the way in which they think is the key. This will help to ease the irrational thinking and control angry outbursts. It has also been scientifically proved that exercise is a great tool to help ease depression. I know from personal experience. I wish you all the best! :o)

Answer 2

about 5 years ago, I started to fall into a really depressive episode. At first I thought it was only because I had a bad break from a relationship but the feelings wouldn't go away even after I got a new girlfriend. It was wrecking my life until a point where it was seriously affecting my work and personal life.

She was very worried but at the same time couldn't understand why I was still sad and thought that I still couldn't let go of my previous relationship. Being the wonderful person that she is, she put aside her feelings and suggested I go for psychiatric evaluation. Many months later and even more anti-depressants, I was not coming close to being better at all.

After doing some research online, I found out the real cause as you described it really makes a lot of sense and purchased this program. The results were simply astonishing. I read this book over three times and put all words in action. Using this method, I've kept my depression at bay ever since. Up to date I'm still living happily with my girlfriend.

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Answer 3

I had a bit of a breakdown in work a couple of years ago. Luckily, I'd been working there (and still am) for some considerable time so people noticed a change of character in me. I therefore had support and understanding. People can't tell how you're feeling just by looking so you need to let people know, if at all possible. Likewise, there's no way you can tell how others feel either so if they fail to respond appropriately, it's nothing personal - it could be they have problems as well. (I was a bit insensitive to that.) It is possible to recover once you've found the help and support you need, just don't let the reactions of others put you off.

Answer 4

Sometimes the depressed person doesn't even understand that depression and anger go hand in hand because they are repressing the anger by overeating, compulsive shopping, gambling, etc. Many people are not knowledgeable about depression as you can see by some of the answers they give on this site. Therefore, they can not be empathetic.

Answer 5

Because they don't know the science of the mind. In the Bhagavad Gita it is said that anger is repressed desires. Desires that go unfulfilled can lead to depression and anger. It is a very simple process of the mind to follow. When I get depressed or angry I follow the feelings back to the original cause. Generally it is because something didn't go the way I wanted it to or I didn't get the love or thing or situation I desired. I then talk to my mind and tell it how to be satisfied. It is a simple process. Psychologists need to be educated and educate other how to help themselves not medicate them. For more info on the science of the mind and soul go to harekrishnatemple.co The Bhagavad-Gita As it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada, is a priceless book

Answer 6

I understand this, as I have experienced it. I have bouts of depression (throughout most of HS and now in my last semester of college.) Anger is something I really do exhibit during my depression. I used to be sort of nasty towards my family in HS and now I am nasty towards my BF (easily irritated at small things, sometimes yelling, almost hitting.)

Some people do not know you are depressed- or even know what some of the effects of depression are. If you are concerned about this, I would honestly tell the person that you are aware of what you are doing and feel it stems from your depression. Depression and anger can eat you alive. You might want to consider help.

Answer 7

Hi Sunshine, you are asking a few questions, you OK?

i think some people do consider the way that other people feel and react, however if what is being said is offensive to that person then i guess they have a right to be upset, and just because someone may be depressed it doesn't mean that they have the right to be rude or abusive to others

Answer 8

I think there are a lot of people who do understand this, especially if they've dealt with depression themselves. I have, and I think you may be surprised at how many people have had depression, or are dealing with depression. It's difficult for people close to you more than for others, I find. They may genuinely want to help and understand, but when you are close to people, and spend lots of time with them, or live with them, it's natural to get on each other's nerves anyway. That doesn't mean people don't understand. It's very stressful for others to deal with it when they are close to you. And anger is difficult for most people to deal with. It scares people. I've been through all this for a long time. I had family literally turn their back on me, and felt very alone. These people couldn't deal with the strong emotions it brought up for them. It still hurts at times, but I turned it around and said to myself, it is them not me. I'll understand them, and know it's them. And spend time with people that do empathise. Let it out though! If you're angry, write in a journal, draw it, rip up sheets of paper.

Answer 9

i think that anger is a direct result of depression i lived with someone with these same outbursts and the anger seemed to come out because he had no self estem and did not understand why he felt sad and lonely all the time never felt he could do right . and people who dont understand depression refuse to relate the 2 they want to say whats wrong cant they control themselves no they cant but we live in a world perfect denial

Answer 10

I've read that depression is anger turned inward. Most people do not understand depression unless they've been through it themsleves. They can't comprehend that its not just a bad day or moment. Seek counseling where you can get validation of your feelings & where you'll be more understood.