Money Issue?

Question

My girl just got a lump sum check for child support for a large sum of money. She also started a job finally after being off work for more than 3 years. She goes out and buys her kids all kinds of stuff and did not take care of of the important stuff even though I reminded her of the things she said she was going to do. She blows the money and tells me I have to pay her back have the money the spent on all this junk that could have wanted so she can pay off things she should have. I told her to take some of that stuff back and pay her bills. She says no she bought that for her kids. Mind you I am the money maker in the house struggleing to take care of her and her kids of which I love. I think she is wrong for arguing with me for money I had no say so of how she spends it. Out of all that money she gives me $100.00. I never once asked her for nothing but she wants me to pay half. What do you all think about this? Am I wrong for feeling this way? What should I do? Please help

Answer 1

she is a selfish lout. she will not change. if you don't like it send her packing. if you want to continue being the grunt and paying all the bills while she sits on her behind ~~~ learn to live with it and don't complain about it.
people will only do what you ALLOW them to do. you are allowing her to do this and you are allowing it to continue!!!

Answer 2

Money is the most common problem in any relationship. I want to help you understand a few things:
1. The child support is for the children. I know you have bills to pay but that money should make them feel better, not you or her.
2. You need to come up with a budget or some type of financial planning strategy. If she refuses to talk about money issues, you may need to reconsider the relationship. I found that sometimes women are unfortunately using men until they can personally do better.
3. You have every right to feel somewhat upset. You supported her thru her times of need. She needs to be respectful of your request.

Again this is a hard time for you & her both. But some type of plan has to be put in effect to keep your relationship together.

Answer 3

I think you don't have to pay her back anything she wants to blow money why is she holding YOU responsible for it? SHE is responsible for it and she should pay the bills that need to be paid out of her next paycheck. That's great she buys her kids things but there's a difference between buying what they need and spoiling them she is spoiling them and buying stuff they don't need and putting the bills last not very smart. You could threaten to leave if she doesn't stop what she's doing. Because she cannot expect you to pay for everything you guys need because the money she has she blows. She'll always have you for back up money unless she pulls her head out of her butt.

Answer 4

Start looking in the internet for people's address's and sellthese on lists preferably with a phone number and tell the buyer you will work for them for $ .02 a name. Thenbuy a lot of phones and call a lot of people and offer them$.01 for same and make sure you are able to colect these i some sort of logical fashion and then sell you idea to an infomercial and make a CD and tape. Good Luck

Answer 5

There is no sane reason why you should pay half. Is she just taking advantage of your kind nature and generosity?