Why don't we talk about ugly woman?

Question

Seriously, i have had to come to terms with the fact that i am one. I'm not disfigured but i am not pleasant to look at. No one wants to discuss this problem and believe me, its a real problem that affects every aspect of your life. No one talks about realistically. What are some realistic reasons and realistic suggestions on how to fix this?

Answer 1

what is beatiful is different to everyone..trust me..
but go out and get your hair done, makeup, some new clothes etc..doing that will likely help you feel so much more pretty and see all your beautiful qualites and features.

Answer 2

Well, I don't think there is a way to "fix" this. I personally can usually find at least one thing I find attractive on a woman, eyes, hair, etc. Nature is not fair, and people will be people, that's just the way it is. How much does it matter what you look like anyways in relationship to what? Just be the best person you can be. If you are not very attractive, well then at least dress well and be clean, not dumpy. Cultivate impecctable manners. Speak well with alot of grace and understanding and compassion and people will respect AND find you "unconventionally attractive". Sometimes that is even more of an allure than just "being pretty".............Good Luck

Answer 3

y is everyone saying she is probably not really ugly, she just said that she is and she should know!!!

a realistic solution is plastic surgery, but a better one would be to adjust your way of thinking. What do you think is beautiful? and why? have you been socially conditioned to believe that you are ugly? And what is the emphasis that society has placed on beauty? is it real, or is it as fraudulent as the fact that some of us buy $400 purses when children are starving in the world? examine the real issues in life, theres so much more to people and especially women than their faces, unlike what television would have us believe. I say find things in life and in yourself that are truly beautiful. not just societies superficial judgments. at the end of the day beauty fades. as women we should strive to be judged and respected on more levels than just physically. Man i wish i was born like 2000 years down the line... maybe humans will get our proverbial sh&t together by then.
but yea other than that, plastic surgery does wonders, also makeup.

Answer 4

I think a personality will make or break someone's looks. I have had some seriously ugly friends, who were so beautiful to me, because they had remarkable personalities.

I have also seen beautiful woman, who were ugly on the inside. What good does being pretty do, if you treat people like crap.

If you want to be more pleasant looking, try to fix your self up a little. Some make up, a new hair cut or style. It's amazing what a little bit does.

Answer 5

I find about 60% of women on this Earth attractive. It is because I don't compare every woman to the best looking woman in the world like every other person seems to. 100 lbs possibly hot, 150 lbs super sexy, 200 lbs still possibly sexy. I find some women of all ages sexy. There are unattractive girls in the world, but fewer for me than most. What's weird is my wife is probably better looking than most people I know, even my friends that girls are crazy about don't date women as good looking as my wife. But I still seem to find most women attractive.

Don't be too hard on yourself, maybe you aren't that great looking, but maybe you are. There are people that might find you attractive, and there's a possibility that no one will. But you can't give up, life must continue.

I think fixing problems like disfigurement are ok, but if you just don't like your look, just deal with it and move on. I don't know how old you are, but some people can put on 30 lbs or lose 30lbs or even get 10 years older and look totally better or worse. You never know what the future holds.

I have always felt that I wish I was extremely attractive. Because I would treat women like royalty and make them feel like the World is in their hands. I mean those with low self-esteem. Some women have low esteem when they shouldn't, some have it that should. But I wish I could change that. I wish I could make you feel beautiful.

Answer 6

I'm sure you're not ugly... maybe you just have the wrong style, go shopping if that is the case, get clothes that make you look stunning... a change in the way you carry yourself can make you more attractive, be more positive, like yourself more, because how can anyone like a person that doesn't even like themselves? Its a bad vibe, other people pick up on it. Try wearing makeup... get your hair done... Feel pretty, be pretty. And don't compare your looks to another woman's, that'll make you feel worse in the long run, just concentrate at making yourself better, not better than others.

no one is really ugly.

Answer 7

Perhaps you are ugly according to the worldly standards, but do not make yourself of the world. It is false. You are a human being, made up of many things you do not even see, controlled by different systems, and have the ability to think, learn, and make a logical decision. Treasure this mysterious life and the mystery of your own existence. Do not look for vain things. I have not seen you, but I think you are a great beauty, with opportunity to be united with the God of everything. I see you as a creation of God, and nothing else. Perhaps others may think different, but their opinion is worthless. All cannot live forever, and their thoughts will perish like the grass along with them.

That is my encouragement.

Answer 8

don't know if "fixing this" is exactly the healthy focus of this. In regards to literally fixing it - If you were to get cosmetic surgery you probably would still feel down on yourself. Before I would even think about that - I would seek professional help (counseling).
There is a real pressure in the USA - espeically for women - to look like the girls on TV or on the cover of Cosmo. As a man I can only imagine how hard this can be. There are very many reasons for this but it rolls down to the fact that all the women on TV and in Magazines don't really exist.
The lady on the cover of cosmo, has had her hair done for three hours, had two hrs of makeup from the best in the business, has the perfect lighting for the shoot, and finally has the picture edited to take out any flaws in the picture.
So it is good that you realize that this pressure can effect you. Society is wrong with this though. It is good to be real with this too because some people who are not the stereotype of what is "beautiful" are often treated with less respect than others, put down, and maybe even discriminated against in the work place.
It's good to be real about this but please do not let what others say bring you down. I know it is so very, very, very easy to say that than it is for you do be able to do that.
I am only blessed by Jesus Christ to realize (some of the time) that we are all caught up in our own little universe. We are all inside our subjective trap, in our own being, and living inside our own brain, soul, spirit, etc. So when I look at someone and judge them I have absolutely no idea what they could be going thru or what they've gone thru. And if the Lord gives me the grace - I can say "whether I think this or that about jane doe - I can never have any idea what it's like to be them."
People are very shallow and so caught up in themselves. They are caught up in whatever is happening in their lives and for so many reasons in them mistreat others.
Please be good to you - like I said you are inside of you - if you aren't your own friend who wlll be? If you are not loving to yourself noone can do it for you.
Talking about this is a good step in coping with this issue. Please find people on here that you can talk to about this (and any other things you need to). I encourage you to reach out to others to release some of what is in your little universe so that you can be freed up. As a Christian, I would also say see God becuase he surpassing the gap between us all. But that is up to you. Anyway do something that's fun - that you like. B-) I'm sorry that this is so long but I wanted to try and help.

Answer 9

No one is ugly....everyone has their own tastes....none of us (or very few anyway) look like models, etc..don't be down on yourself. Go get your hair done, your nails, dress up. Do things that make you feel good. And always remember, it's not all about looks. I know some every pretty people on the outside, who are uglier than you could ever imagine on the inside.

Answer 10

How to fix what? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you don't like something about your appearance and it's that distressing to you, then consider plastic surgery. If you walk around holding your head down, thinking you're ugly, then other people will too. It will permeate every aspect of your life.

Answer 11

what is beauty anyway. it's a subjective concept. you might consider something as a beauty while i might not see any beauty in it at all. and in a person (regardless woman or man), i believe there always lies a beauty. you might have the most beautiful appearance but not as smart. you might be not as beautiful but respectably smart. or you just look ok, but have the most amazing personality.
anyways, neighbor's green does always looks greener than ours. it's just human.
and i agree that you must believe in yourself first. even the ugliest duck could become a charming goose if she believes she's pretty. one aspect of beauty, i think, is confidence. you must believe that you are beautiful. that's step one.if even you yourself underestimate you, you can't expect other people to think otherwise.